I waited on some of the snarkiest, most pretentious and helpless people you'd ever meet in a bookstore.
HEY! I hang out in bookstores and I'm NOT any of those things. Oh, wait, yes I am.
But the publishing industry is following the recording industry if not down the drain, at least into a very different mode of doing business. In the last two years SF lost it's two Tower Record stores, and its Virgin Megastore, and both SF as well as Berkeley (where the snarkiest, most pretentious and helpless people you'd ever meet all seem to want to go to college) have lost long time, and much beloved bookstores.
As for the hair, it's your decision. Business have some sort of public image to uphold, and I tend to support them in their right to do business as they see fit. You can have odd hair color, the Black&Decker facial accessories, tats everywhere and still be in our union, and you can do rock shows and movies, but your not going to get a call to work conventions or the big downtown hotels, as our agreement with them stipulates a basic dress code. People know that, and make their choices accordingly.