Personally I've always preferred silver to gold. Moon metal to sun metal, goddesses to gods, etc.
Playin' is never fun for anyone but the playah! Perhaps, as Starr said he'll come to that realization. A bit late, but it may be helpful to him the next time.
Just in my experience type of thing: the playah seems in constant need of re-affirmation that he's (or she's) attractive and worthy of the attention he (or she) gets from the situation. Never quite confident that he (she) "measures-up."
At the same time they often want to play while maintaining a "steady" relationship as there's a measure of "cushioned support" in that. They think they'll not be left alone which may be the reason for playin' while "married."
Thing is, I'd say you're better off, Heartwood, although you prolly won't feel that way for a while. It's prolly impossible to match two people for self-confidence levels, but I imagine it's best when both have a good bit. That way you tend to choose a partner from a place of strength rather than a place of weakness. One isn't effectively more "needy" than the other.
That appears to work best. All the best as you move forward, dear.
N~
