I only seem to post here when I need advice. Sorry about that. I appreciate it though.
Prepare for waffling.
I've been passing as male 99.9% of the time. Even at places like the doctors when the receptionist has my sex on file.
I got called a gentleman three times today, and got a manly handshake too!
Oh, and I was at a party a couple of weeks ago, and one guy asked me if I was male or female. I said yes. (Haha, best answer ever, right?!) Then he spent the entire night trying to figure me out, despite the fact that I was being called by my birth name. A few hours later he came upto me and said "I know! You're male!". So I think there must be more to it than just the way I look? I obviously give off maleness with the way I carry myself or something.
The problem is, I don't realllly know if I'm trans. I'll not get into this, but I don't get dysphoria and I'm not too fussed about my body. I'd just prefer it to be male.
So yes, passing as male + female pronouns can get rather awkward. For example the jobcentre always call me out as "miss" and that sucks. (I don't know if it sucks cause I'm trans, or if it sucks cause I look like a dude and am just being pointed out as looking/being different.)
My friends all know me as female, and often correct people who perceive me differently. I hate this.
So at the moment, I'd definitely prefer to go by male pronouns. I could come out and tell everyone to use the pronouns and my male name. However, like I said, I'm not sure if I'm trans, so what if I tell everyone to call me a boy and then in a few months I'm parading around in a pink dress? (That's never gonna happen, but just for example.)
Just not really sure what to do I guess. I don't know if I want to transition, I just don't want people being like "Errrr, THAT's a girl?" and stuff.
Also, If I do decide to tell people to refer to me as male, how do you suggest I go about it?
This would all be a sh*t load easier if I could just have been born a dude. Haha.
