Maturaty

[Terra]

Last night I was talking to one of my best friends, as we talked about serious and not so serious topics, she asked me the following question. "Do you think I turn off guys?" I asked her what she ment and she told me that most guys didn't seem to interested in a serious relationship.  I kinda took this as a 'Duh" moment.  She basically told me that I was probably the most mature person she knew at our age level. So here comes the question...

Do you think that you are more mature then those around you growing up and if so why?

I think having to control my emotions and actions kinda forced me to 'grow up'. I never enjoyed the bathroom conquest tales or alot of the rough housing that the other guys apparently did. So maybe not participating gave me the apperence of maturaty? Also being incredibly introspective in trying to figure out who I was and what was wrong with me perhaps had me mature. *shrugs* I don't know, but i've been getting the comments of maturity and wise thrown my way lately, just curious on your own experiences.

[Sarah Louise]

Some of us were forced to grow up very fast, much before our time, so yes, I quite often was told by both peers and adults that I was very mature for my age.

Sarah L.

[LostInTime]

I was always a bit mature for my age and I tended to look older than what I was.  Fortunately that is all behind me now.  LOL

I finally learned how to let loose a bit and have fun, on my terms.  I hated the boys club thing too and could never stand the boasting of conquests and that kind of garbage.

The thing was that I was not really ready for relationships then due to my own issues but now I feel like I would be able to be a part of a very good and lasting relationship.  Now to just find a few applicants... 

[Melissa]

Yes, as a man, I was always very mature - especially compared to those around me.  However, since starting with transition, I've had kind of a "reboot" effect and as a female, I show immaturity in some areas (usually related to living as a woman), but extreme maturity in others (general things).  I have also noticed that as time has gone on, it has improved.  I love experimenting with clothes like a teenager, but when it comes to being there and helping others, I think I am very mature.

Melissa

[Kate]

Do you think that you are more mature then those around you growing up and if so why?

Philosophically, and in terms of knowing myself and trying to not just understand, but also truly empathize with others... yes, I'd say I'm more mature than those I know (I mean in person, not here on the forum - you people humble me, lol).

But socially... I'm a child. I DO blame the TSism, as I literally feel like a little girl pretending to be an adult man... forever terrified of being caught. I got stuck somewhere around puberty, almost as if I'm still waiting for the right context to finish growing up.

In fact, my wife always jokes with me about how I can't seem to fool little kids and babies... they just seem to instinctively know that I'm "one of them," lol... they don't react to me as they would adults. I always get this, "What are you doing pretending to be a grownup?" look from them, lol...

Shhhhh....

[veronica06]

 
Do you think that you are more mature then those around you growing up and if so why?
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wellllllllll?  don't you think that maturity will depend on who's definition?
huh?
okay,..I'm sorry.
at my age,...and my experiences,..I am over 50, and come ....from....the 50's..SO....my idea, and your....idea may not be the same,..right?
but you didn't ask that right?

okay.
sorry again.

do I believe ...I...am more mature?

well duh!

but how do ...you...feel about it?

[cindianna_jones]

I missed this thread completeley (as I have of other threads in the past few days with all that's been going on).

Kind of wierd too... cause I just posted an article about it in the Chronicles at:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,6130.0.html

It's a piece I suspect I might get blasted for.  And if anyone disagrees or has another perspective, please post a comment there.

Cindi

[veronica06]

It's a piece I suspect I might get blasted for.

Cindi
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group? therapy?
yokay fine...not been there...not going to do that.
I have never played well with other boys n girls and am too old to learn how to..now.
I am trying to do one on one as it is for my paranoia and persecution complex...but not heard of group for tg/ts........

hmmmmmmm

didn't know it existed.