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[Kellsie]

Well I had a talk with my mom today.  She told me she was scared that I was going to start hrt and that it would mess up my head and mess up my body.  All I know at this point is if I don't start transitioning I will die.  My mom is worried that if I start down this road I will try to hurt myself.  I tried to explain to her that not only am I seeing a psychiatrist but also a psychotherapist (gender therapist).  How do I handle this or even explain being TG?  Please help I feel lost.

[PinkSunshine]

Hi Kira! Well the good news is that you at least have a dialog with her. The way to handle it (IMHO) is to just tell her the truth. Explain to her what being transgender means. If she doesn't get it, she'll ask questions. Make sure you're ready to answer them. Explain to her that you are seeking help, that you're not doing it alone, and that it will actually make you feel better in the end. Also, that it isn't an instant thing, she'll have time to adjust. Keep in mind that mothers will always be worried to an extent, after all, that is part of they're job  . Well, that is my 2 cents, and remember that we'll always be here hun, so you don't have to feel lost!

[Kellsie]

I have tried to explain it.  I even e-mailed her some information from this site as well as one other.  She keeps telling me she doesn't have time to check her e-mail!  I am sorry, I am just ranting.

[Lucy]

OMG, your not ranting and this is one of the hadest things to do, explain how you feel to loved ones. Be paitient, keep trying to talk. Dont drum it in await your moments, she will open up eventually. Do you dress at home? not that its that important but I wondering how serious she thinks it may be. If you are serious about this and you are seing a theropist then sit her down to talk, tell her you are serious about this, tell her how you feel and why you have to do this. Be honest with her.

Your mom will be worried about you and wont want you to hurt your self so explain how much you are hurting allready.

[Janet_Girl]

Those that love and care for us, are the hardest to understand why we are doing what we do.

Just try to explain why you are in pain and need to do this.

And I wish you the very best, Hon.

Janet