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Anyone can't stand looking at themselves crossdressed?

Started by lostandconfused, June 12, 2009, 01:01:30 AM

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heatherrose




Quote from: ell on July 16, 2009, 08:28:42 PM*Hugs Heatherrose and squishes her ears*


There that should hold me for a bit... Thank-you.

~curtsie~


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I've always wanted to live in a neighborhood with you.

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Nikki

I haven't gotten dolled up in a good bit now. But I've never been quite satisfied with the reflection.
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Deanna_Renee

Quote from: lostandconfused on June 12, 2009, 01:01:30 AM
(Yes I know I did a topic like this before but...)
Before puberty really hit me, I LOVED crossdressing. At first it was just playing with pantyhose/bras, but I later actually dressed up. It felt great, I looked in the mirror and I was just smiling at how cute I looked. I can't really describe it pass this emoticon: ^_^. But when puberty hit, well... I get depressed when I see myself crossdressed. Even more so when the thought that I'll keep getting more and more masculine.. my god my face can't pass anymore... it... used to look cute.

Sigh. Anyone felt the same before?

I used to love the way I looked in womens clothes, more so, I loved the idea of wearing them better. However, in the past few years, my body is doing things that make clothes that are made for certain curves, certain bodies just don't work any more. The main culprit is this growing tire around my waist. I used to be very, very active working on my feet 12 or more hours a day, so I used to be in great shape (for a guy). Then I developed a hernia, have had a torn tendon in my ankle for decades, rotor-cuff injury, etc and I changed careers to graphic design. Now I spend the day sitting on my arse, I don't get the exercise I used to and the result - slower metabolism, less muscle mass (good thing?), biGGer waist (went from 32 to 38 in a little over a year). I have been working on getting things back where they should be - down to a 34-36 waist. Still too much. I want to lose at least 30 pounds to get back down to 170 so that when/if I transition I'll be closer to my ideal (male) weight of 160 at 5'9. Hopefully HRT will work at re-allocating that fat to more desirable places.

I would still rather dress as a woman than in the drab, utilitarian, men's clothes. Just wish they fit right. BTW I'm just brand new here and with accepting my situation.

Love everyone's input, great insights. Hugs all around for anyone who wants one.  :)
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K8

Welcome to Susan's StuckInHere.

I managed to look good enough in women's clothes until I was in my 50s - or good enough to fool myself in the mirror.  Then either I changed or the filter in my mind changed.  I understand how disappointing it can be.

I'm sorry about your injuries, but you can do something about your shape.  (Easy for me to say. ::))

Anyway, I hope you find lots of good friends and good information here.

- Kate
Life is a pilgrimage.
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Smexy_Chandra

I pass well enough cross dressed that it really isn't much of an issue for me. I always thought I looked prettier as a girl. ^_^

My only problem is leftover stubble and such. My facial hair grows in so fast that I have to constantly shave it. I'm thinking that hair removal therapy might be a good idea for me.
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Chrissty

I'm just beginning to get problems with the cross-dressing...

...peeps are starting to notice there is something wrong when I present "guy"...

This could be fun...?

Chrissty
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Deanna_Renee

Quote from: Chrissty on July 28, 2009, 05:11:09 PM
I'm just beginning to get problems with the cross-dressing...

...peeps are starting to notice there is something wrong when I present "guy"...

This could be fun...?

Chrissty

How so? You mean people who only know you as "guy" starting to see you as "girl"? or people who know you as "girl" seeing you present as "guy"?

Going by your picture, I could see having a hard time with you presenting "guy". You look beautiful (especially given the age you posted to me earlier - I think you're adding the years wrong. It goes 29, 30, 31... not 30, 31, 41...)  ;)

D
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ginger39

For whatever reason I've only crossdressed a few times and all within the last year. Some things I have noticed. I look waaaaaay better in girl mode than in guy mode. Although some women always told me I was attractive I never saw it. I don't have any masculine features. Never looked in mirrors and always wore to use Janets term drab clothing. I am starting to figure out why men used to try to get in my pants back when I was a teen. I guess they were ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s and I didn't even know I was a ->-bleeped-<-. Probably should have let them have their way. Oh well, can't cry over spilt milk.

Also, the most difficult part of getting spiffed up is the eyeliner and mascara. This just bedevils the heck out of me. I watched a bunch of makeup tutorials on youtube and am starting to get the hang of it. Finally. I think I need to go with different eyeliner though but that is hardly possible as my wife (really my husband I think) sells Mary Kay and she would flip out on me if I bought something else.

I've had pierced ears for about a year now. They are fantastic. I never take them off except to change them out. Thinking about getting more holes. A guy that used to be in the Navy that I work with told me that the left ear/right ear thing was all about what ocean that you served on. I think it went something like left ear meant Atlantic, right ear meant Pacific and both meant you served on both oceans. Don't know if that is true or not ust what he told me. Also, in the town I live in NE Texas many adult males now have earrings and most in both ears. Of course, I was never going to go with only one earring. That would be stupid. As a matter of fact my earring collection is starting to look like my shoe collection.
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K8

Quote from: ginger39 on July 29, 2009, 01:21:56 AM
I am starting to figure out why men used to try to get in my pants back when I was a teen. I guess they were ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s and I didn't even know I was a ->-bleeped-<-. Probably should have let them have their way. Oh well, can't cry over spilt milk.
Yeah, I used to have to fight them off, too.  Not any more. :(  Ah, if I'd only known...

Quote from: ginger39 on July 29, 2009, 01:21:56 AM
but that is hardly possible as my wife (really my husband I think) sells Mary Kay and she would flip out on me if I bought something else.
Too bad your spouse/partner sells Mary Kay.  There are a lot better products out there.

Quote from: ginger39 on July 29, 2009, 01:21:56 AM
A guy that used to be in the Navy that I work with told me that the left ear/right ear thing was all about what ocean that you served on. I think it went something like left ear meant Atlantic, right ear meant Pacific and both meant you served on both oceans.
When I got my ears pierced, the local wisdom was that one ear was the "gay" ear, but it depended on which part of the country you were from.  So I got them both pierced.  (That's my story and I'm sticking with it... ::))  Too bad I hadn't heard about the ocean business – I served on both. :eusa_sick:

- Kate
Life is a pilgrimage.
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FairyGirl

Quote from: K8 on July 29, 2009, 07:38:20 AMWhen I got my ears pierced, the local wisdom was that one ear was the "gay" ear, but it depended on which part of the country you were from.  So I got them both pierced.  (That's my story and I'm sticking with it... ::))  Too bad I hadn't heard about the ocean business – I served on both. :eusa_sick:

- Kate

I've flown across both, does that count? :laugh: I have 2 in my left ear and 1 in my right ear plus a belly ring guess I'm gay as hell lol
Girls rule, boys drool.
If I keep a green bough in my heart, then the singing bird will come.
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Chrissty

Quote from: StuckInHere on July 28, 2009, 07:10:35 PM
How so? You mean people who only know you as "guy" starting to see you as "girl"? or people who know you as "girl" seeing you present as "guy"?

Going by your picture, I could see having a hard time with you presenting "guy". You look beautiful (especially given the age you posted to me earlier - I think you're adding the years wrong. It goes 29, 30, 31... not 30, 31, 41...)  ;)

D

Aww..thanks for the compliment :icon_bunch:

...but I'm afraid my age is correct and the photo flattering... ;)

...and no...I have been resisting transition and I am currently only "out" to my therapist...

So my comment is about my recent problems with containing my female persona.

Chrissty

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Tristan

Quote from: Chrissty on July 29, 2009, 03:41:41 PM
Aww..thanks for the compliment :icon_bunch:

...but I'm afraid my age is correct and the photo flattering... ;)

...and no...I have been resisting transition and I am currently only "out" to my therapist...

So my comment is about my recent problems with containing my female persona.

Chrissty

really? cuz you are a hot woman
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K8

Life is a pilgrimage.
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Tristan

lol. thanks K8 people tell me all the time i look like my mom
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Meshi

When  I started out..I hated the way i looked, but as time progressed, even within the first yr, i  did many things to accentuate different aspects of the parts of  my face and body i didnt like.  I also started working out  big time, especially with cardio ard light weight training.  Diet is also key to getting the body to where you want it.  I just had a conversation with a plastic surgeon and he  said main thing to loose body fat other than  cardio, is no simple carbs, limit salt/sodium, NO simple  sugars, and  no bad fats (ie fried foods, trans fats, pizza, candy, ice cream, cakes  etc).  I recently talked to a TS that told me exactly what  to do to loose  the little extra.  Not very hard, but you have to  be dedicated.   It really  all depends on the person, how you feel inside,  being  positive, and finding ways to  improve the  aspects you  dont like.  Of course  plastic surgery, laser, and electrolysis can play a big part, but  not  all have the financial means.  I myself  am never satisfied.., but hey..i  dont let it get me that  down.  As for piercing, i  did my own about 10yrs ago.., but now  id have someone else do it.   I  want to get my belly done.  Oh and lipo  can do  wonders for the belly fat, but  it runs around 2k. Diet and alot cardio and crunches  can surely  reduce it though.  Sorry  for my rant, as i get carried away :).
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Calistine

Ive never really felt that way :/ I dunno even when I feel like being a girl ive always preferred guy clothes. I never really considered it crossdressing, if anything wearing a dress is crossdressing for me.
I can see why you would hate it though, because by crossdressing your reminding yourself that your not physically female and that might cause self loathing. I dont know thats just my though.
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