Your relationship with fatherly figures?

[Radar]

... am always compared to him (father)...

I've been that way too. All my life people have compared me to my father and still do. I can't even think of a time someone compared me to my mother. Weird. Sometimes I wonder that- even if you haven't told your family you're a trans yet- they maybe subconsciously know. They may not realise it completely, but a thought is there.

[Mr. Fox]

I don't get along extremely well with my father.  I don't hate him, but he's always trying to shape me into what he wants me to be and he thinks I'm dumb and don't know what I want.  This would be quite okay if I lived outside of the house and could ignore him, but I'm too young to move out, so oh well.  He still seems better than the fathers of all of my friends.  Fathers just suck, I guess.

My mother is great.  Usually when people say, "Your mom is awesome," the individual receiving the statement is like, "You don't know her," but I'm like, "Hell yeah!"  I enjoy conversation with her, and she helped me towards a great deal of the independence and intelligence I have today.

Funnily enough, I don't think I've been compared much to either parent, apart from appearances.

[Khrist]

I've always had a great relationship with my dad. He would allow me to wear male dress as a child (since my mother was always so against it) and doesn't care a ->-bleeped-<- about my "gender issues" or sexuality as long as I'm a happy and balanced person.
He has always treated me more like a boy because he knows that is what I want. For example teaching me to fix my own car (he is a mechanic) and making me do ass-busting yard work; it's given me a better work ethic than a lot of guys my age.
I have terrible issues with my mother though. She is from Peru and extremely Catholic (my dad is American and an atheist) and she is upset that she didn't get to keep her girl. She treated me more like a doll than a person growing up, making me grow my hair to excruciatingly long lengths and dressing me in uncomfortably wackass dolly clothing just to go outside.

[perfectisolation]

I don't talk much to my dad, tho I live with him, but he's a good dad.
He too let me dress "like a boy", but both my parents assumed that was just a "phase" that I was just a tomboy, etc. He's kind of homophobic tho, and kinda old in his views. He really hates how I've been looking more masculine.
Considering how I've had issues all my life, I'm surprised he hasn't thrown me out of the house 

[Lachlann]

Interesting replies and stories, guys. Was fascinating to read.

[GnomeKid]

definitely am more of a mommas boy.  I'm a lot like my dad though... Its a lot of why I get annoyed with him at times, but that has nothing to do with my FTM status.  I actually started thinking about this the other day.  My dad is far from a manly man, and I doubt that my being born a boy would have led him to do things like go hunting/fishing with me or anything like that [not that I would have at all wanted to.] I mean we did have some bonding activities (Nintendo.. built a model car or two.. played catch... ect.)

I guess I resent him for giving me that X chromosome (although he had no control of it obviously)  I resent him for the same reason a little part of me unfairly resents every biological male: why did they get born right?  more importantly why didn't I?

completely unfair and illogical of me, I know, but I can't help it.

[Nero]

I always viewed my dad as my primary role model.

Me too. We had a really rocky relationship in my teens, but now everything is great. It's weird though. As a child, the more different than him I was, the more I hated myself. I wanted to be just like him, and yet I knew I never could be. We got along great until I was 11, then my physical changes caused us to drift apart and be at odds. I think for his part, that he was confused and suddenly tried to see me as a girl, as I did too. I also changed drastically and became a very bitter and different person. Before that, we were great. I think the changes were confusing for both of us.

[Jamie-o]

Before that, we were great. I think the changes were confusing for both of us.

Yeah, I think it's pretty common for dads to pull away from their daughters when they hit puberty.  I think they're afraid of being perceived as being "inappropriate" if they are too close to a post-pubescent girl.  Plus it probably weirds them out when their baby grows breasts.

[Silver]

My father's a great guy, get along great with him.

Mother was a total. . . erm, female dog though. Always tried to feminize me, always complaining. . . ("You're too much like your father," "you're like one of the guys," blah blah blah). She never shut up.

Maybe this is why I started to go ftm. Still figuring it out.

SilverFang

[Genevieve Swann]

Of the 17 years I spent near my father I only recall one good week. We packed on horseback into a wilderness area. That was great. Other than that he is the most vial, loathsome man on earth. I did have a good time in San Diego with him once while visiting my Navy daughter. But I was 53 years old by that time. If anyone desires a father figure and a good example of how NOT to be, look up that guy.

[noeleena]

Hi...  Not having a father i would not know what that means .. from being born till 5 / 6  i have no memory. only really being told things by my mum . there were men in the house  as boarders  liveing there & comeing & going . all i knew was this man was called bob ... must have been my father  . 
    my mum seperated  when i was 5 ... i did see him as a friend .. & yes he saw me over the years till 9 years ago . he pasted on then . he had a high profile as a wrestler . & did archery all over n z . so he was well known .
     .Being 61 . now . so the last 37 years i have ment to be a father .. to 3 of our grouwn up kids .  was i .. no . sort of i spos ...  i tryed . put it that way . so that was my lack .  much better as a woman ......
     ...noeleena...