almost stalked

[Virginia87106]

I was in Sam's club today, and I had on a brown patterned dress 6" above the knee and 2" heels, looking about as good as I can, and I see this guy following me very stealthily.  He appeared on the same aisle I was on 5 times, and once I smiled at him.

So as I am leaving the store he was at the entrance "reading" a magazine, and as I walked out I felt him follow.  I was pushing a cart, so out of the corner of my eye I tried to keep track of him, and kept a tight hold on my purse.  He caught up to me and said, "you have great legs."  to which I replied, "thank you, I have worked hard on these legs."
And he said, "If you need any help with them let me know", and he gave me his name and phone # he had already written out on a piece of paper.

Well, I felt quite flattered by it all as he was a very good-looking guy.  So I am wondering if I should call him back.

I also wonder if GGs would feel flattered in the same way I was or would some women fell threatened by a similar experience.

[Sandy]

Feel flattered, but also feel stalked, there was no "almost" about it!

If you call him, be sure to make the first couple (dozen) dates in a public place.  Considering your conversation consisted of a couple of sentences do you think he is attracted to you because of your mind?

He may be a wonderful, but lonely, person.  He could also be Hannibal Lecter...

Be careful!

-Sandy

[Nicky]

I guess you can only go on your instincts with this one.

He sounded very forward to me. He gave the sort of come on line that would make me think "this guy is just after a shag". I think it is ok to be flattered by that. I personally would find it a little creepy if he followed me around a supermarket.

If your worried then meet up in a public place and see how it goes.

[Virginia87106]

Thank you ladies.  I do not think I will call him, but I felt flattered.

[Syne]

He might just be a shy guy who was trying to work up the nerve to approach you before you were gone. Not everyone is a deranged and crazy stalker (and that is coming from someone who has had to deal with a few of 'em).

[heatherrose]

If this had happened to me, the manner in which he stalked me and the first
thing that he actually said to me would have rung a load warning bell for me.

I would imagined that you were in the store for about an hour. In that time he
couldn't figure out how to "bump into you" and start some level of conversation.
Then he continues to stalk you through the parking lot and the first thing he
says to you is to tell you that he's attracted to some part of your body. To
me this is behavior akin to the "Lurky Trolls" on the "Meat Sites". If it were
me, yes I would have felt a bit flattered but my "Spidey Senses" would have
been wiggin'. I would have been polite and thanked him for the "compliment"
and told him, "My boyfriend wouldn't appreciate me calling strange men." and
let him bow out back into the shadows. I've had similar things happen to me
and with that approach they only have ONE thing on their mind. If that's your
thing then, Cool and Good Luck but be very, very careful. I'd hate to hear Dr.
Becky read your name and story on the Az. capitol steps.

[Alyx.]

That is very creepy...

I would have felt like slapping the guy almost. It's like having someone come up to you and say "I like your ass". Perverts.

But maybe that's not what he meant.

[NicholeW.]

I have to agree with Syne on this. Not sure that was stalking. Admiring and an invitation? Yes, not so different than being in bar and having some guy come-on to you.

Would I call him? Prolly not, he'd have had to have said something besides that "I can help you with those" line to have made me wonder about using his number. That's one of the best things about a garbage bag in the car. Nifty for getting rid of stuff that's unwanted.

[heatherrose]

IMHO

Why waste you time and effort to settle some curiosity
when you KNOW what he's got on his mind right off the gitgo. 
Unless of course you normally enjoy living on the more, shall we say,
adventurous side of life, Then knock yourself out but don't let him do it for you.

[Tammy Hope]

He might just be a shy guy who was trying to work up the nerve to approach you before you were gone. Not everyone is a deranged and crazy stalker (and that is coming from someone who has had to deal with a few of 'em).

This is my take as a first impression because I have always been one of those who lacked self-confidence to the point that I had to take a LONG time building up courage.

I'd hate to see the guy lose out if that's the case.

that said, the cautious here have a point too and I think Sandy has the right idea that if you are interested, make sure your in public places for the early going.

[Dana Lane]

Maybe he finally got the nerve up to come talk to you.  Who knows. I don't think what he did was that creepy.  Some guys just act differently than others.  Now if he was overly aggressive I would worry. But these are just my thoughts.

[tekla]

Yeah, and I was almost hit by a car today, except I was on the sidewalk and the car stayed on the street, but if... then wow!

If you think that is stalking, then you don't have any idea what that word, or behavior, really is about.

[Dana Lane]

Yeah, and I was almost hit by a car today, except I was on the sidewalk and the car stayed on the street, but if... then wow!

Now that was funny!

[Virginia87106]

Part of me is really curious.  I have been approached before but never in this way.  He somehow saw me when I first entered the store, because I saw him while I was looking at books.  Then when I went to the grocery section and he and I were the ONLY ones in the aisle, I thought it was unusual, and that is when I smiled at him when he looked at me. He would not meet my gaze but smiled.   Then I noticed him in the vitamin section, and I thought, here he is again, but I still sort of thought in the back of my mind that it was just a funny coincidence.
But when I passed the doors to go out and saw him reading the advertising rags that were there, that is when I knew he had been following me the whole time.
Looking back, when he approached me in the parking lot and I was expecting him to do so, he wanted one thing, to have sex with me.  Nothing else.  But he was sort of gentlemanly about it, and did not seem creepy, he just expressed his wish, gave me his info, and left without expecting me to answer back in the moment.
So the fact that he followed me around the store is somewhat disturbing, but I am still somewhat curious about his intentions.
Is he a trans-fan and attracted to TSs?
I look pretty good in make-up and such, but I am 6'3" tall and I think he knew I was TS.  His willingness to lose 30 minutes of his day either speaks to a unhealthy obsession or he feels in love at first sight.  Honey, I am a fine woman but I still find that a bit unusual.

So I think, I like sex, he could give me a good turn and time.  Or he could be after my skin for his trophy case.

So, I am still deciding.  Thanks to all for your input.

[tekla]

Actually, my first though was he was a security - merchandise shrinkage agent - and had to do that outside the store.

[Virginia87106]

Wow.  That is something I never thought of.

Altho' on second remembrance, I walked right by where he was parked as I approached the store going in.  He might have picked me up as I entered the store.

[tekla]

Hey you look guilty.  In fact, to security people, everyone looks guilty.  Except me, they KNOW I'm guilty.

[Lisbeth]

Feel flattered, but also feel stalked, there was no "almost" about it!

Speaking as someone who has been stalked, there's nothing flattering about it. It's just bloody scary.