Hi all!

[rjong999]

Hi alll! Please let me introduce myself: My name is Rob, I am a 50-year old guy who lives in Rotterdam (Netherlands), together with A., my 28-year old girlfriend.
A. is a post-op (since 3 years) transgender. We have known each other for 10 years or so and are living together now for over half a year, seriously considering marriage & the lot.

The reason I joined this forum is because I have questions regarding transsexuality, and maybe some experiences and advice to share. Although A. and myself are very open and honest, sometimes I just do not want to bother her with my questions - and sometimes I feel it is best to "just not think about it". Can you understand that?

I think A. is a very brave girl, having decided for herself, without any outside help or support, to undergo SRS at the age of 24, against the will of her parents, and I think she is doing very well. We live our lives just as "ordenary couples", and, in fact, most of our friends do not know about A.'s `background` (as she refers to 'it').  And this is where my questions start...

Anyway, I'm happy to have found your forum and hope to be able to contribute as well as get some advice on things...

Cheers,

Rob

[PinkSunshine]

Welcome to Susans!  You've deffinately come to the right place, there are plenty of question asking/answering to be done. See you around!

[Miniar]

Oh I understand what you mean. Sometimes you just don't want to "pester" your loved ones with all the questions.
You found the right place though... have a look around and feel free to ask whatever questions you got.

[V M]

Hi Rob  Welcome to Susan's

You've come to the right place. Feel free to ask and share 

[Janet_Girl]

Hi Rob,

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[Alyssa M.]

Although A. and myself are very open and honest, sometimes I just do not want to bother her with my questions - and sometimes I feel it is best to "just not think about it". Can you understand that?

Well, I don't know so much how it is to date a trans woman, only how to be one, but I think you're right to look for answers elsewhere. Since, like many here, I'm still in the process of transitioning, I have to deal with these issueas a lot of the time, and sometimes it can be tedious to have people ask the same questions over and over.

There's just one problem that you might run into. This experience is a little bit different for everyone, and we all have different ways of looking at it and dealing with it. There's a lot we have in common, but I just want to warn you that just because someone else describes their experience with transitioning and their past one way, it doesn't mean your girlfriend will see it the same way.

Please check out the site's Significant Others boards -- you might find some good ideas on how to deal with your own feelings about this from the other SO's that post there.