Am i Transgendered?

[tunak]

Hello guys im new here and would just like opinions from women who has gone through alot as a MTF woman. I have written a blog about why i think im transgendered and if you may please read it and tell me your opinions. I know that it is all up to me but I am just wondering if anyone else has gone through what i had or had similar thoughts/experiences/case like mine. Thank you very much.

[Tristan]

Hum.. well it sounds like may be you could be trans. You could try cross-dressing more to see how you react/feel in the role of a woman. I would also talk to a therapist and trusted friends to see what they think (remember friends notice things about you that you don't sometimes.)

[Janet_Girl]

Briefly reading over your blog, I would say possibly,  But only you and a therapist can answer that.  Get a good gender therapist and look into your feelings.

Absolutely no one can tell you 'Yes, you are' or 'No, you're not'.  Only thru therapy can you find the answer.


Janet

[lauren3332]

You sound like you definitely do have some TG issues.  If you are going off alone crying because you can't be a girl or participate in the activities that the other girls are doing shows a sign of envy.  It is common amongst the TG folk.  I guess the bigger question you should ask is, do you see yourself as a woman 24/7?  You seem to want to be perceived as a female by others.  the link to your pictures on photobucket didn't work for me since I don't have an account there so I could no see.  Welcome to the forum, I hope you can find some help here.  Huigs!!!

[antarcticsake]

Hi!!
Don't fret, actually, your story is nearly identical to mine.  It's kind of scary!! Haha.
The whole "man dude" thing with straight guys and how they treat women, it's exactly how I feel, too.  I guess the way I judge it is if you are okay with dressing in women's clothes for fun but being a man at all other times, it's not transsexuality.  But, that doesn't seem to be the case.

People have recommended to me what I'm going to recommend you should do--see a gender therapist! I have an appointment - my first - in a few weeks and I'm scared, but it's the only way to help sort out all the hooplah going on in your head ya know? 

Good luck!  You'd make a great girl! 

[FairyGirl]

Seeing a therapist when you think you have gender issues is always the best first step. As for passing, hon you have a great face shape already- no doubt that hormones would definitely do wonders for you.

[tunak]

Thank you for all your replies ladies. It helps to talk to someone about this. How do i get about getting a gender therapist? I have insurance but I am covered under my parents, I dont want them to find out just yet. I do go to a university, i will check to see if these services are available in my school.

[Janet_Girl]

That would be a start.  Also on-line.  Ask Nero, he says his is awesome and I trust my little brother.

Janet

[Sandra Ts]

Hi Tristian I think like you
if you want lets talk about it
Sandra Ts

[Sandra Ts]

sry  I meant the athor of the text
tristian V

are you the same?

[tunak]

Sure heres my aim: Tj3stan30

I am actually planning to have a date with a guy ive been talking to online. I know hes not just after sex and hes actually a sweet guy. He even offered to accompany me to a trans support group. But anyways does anyone have any pointers or suggestions. This is my first time doing this and i dont know wat to expect.

[wannalivethetruth]

Our stories are similar...

lol, it's sad when i reread your story cuz sum of it i been threw...
I use to be jelous of girls every since kindergarten, especially when they got special privalige and i didn't made me feel so torn.

It's possible that you could be a girl, you have the same issues

[Paulina]

You're gorgeous in the last picture. If I didn't know you were a guy, I would totally think you're a beautiful girl.

Then I would notice the breast part, but yeah I would be fooled.

I am still battling with it, but then most of the time I think my life would be better just as the hottest gay guy, or a girl.... I don't want to mess up my life, I am just so confuse right now.

I wish I was just born with a definite frame of mind (preferably a girl). I wish my life was simple and clear rather than muddy as it is. I never been called gay, I act like a real guy in real life.

I want to be reborn. Because even if I transition society would never accept it, no man would ever love me the same as a natural born one.

[Debra]

Sorry to necro a thread but Wow Tristan you do look gorgeous in the latest pic there. =) Just wanted to say that. Hope you have been able to see a therapist and things are going well.

[tunak]

Thank you for your responses and compliments. I am now at the process of choosing a therapist to go but I must pick from a couple that my insurance (Aetna) covers. Im planning to call individually to see what their experiences are with tgs.

Im also planning on recording my journey through youtube so i can track my progress and at the same time offer advice/help for other tgs out there. I will give you all an update soon

[bernii]

Tristan, Sweetheart,

I think that not only are you trans, you so do pass!! I am not a professional in gender dysphoria, but from what I do know, you are a transsexual!! I am listing a couple of links that I hope help you in your journey.

With love....

http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/TS.html

http://wpath.org/Documents2/socv6.pdf

HUGS

Brenda

[aurora17]

Hmmm...

Being transgendered implies before all being a woman, actually.
Be careful not wanting to change your body because of some (male) phantasy about female body... you might regret it thereafter.
Finding out whether you are or are not transgendered might be a very long soul searching exercise. Took extremely long for me, because I knew that once the transition has begun, there is no turning back.

[Nicky]

Hmmm...

Being transgendered implies before all being a woman, actually.

Actually it does not imply this at all. It is an umbrella term which covers a range of people on this site, not to mention the ftm's. I also think transition is not an A to B path. There are many places to stop along the way and a lot of things you do are reversabile. It is quite ok to take baby steps and see what feels right for you.

[tunak]

To all that is interested in following my journey, heres my youtube page

http://www.youtube.com/user/TristinVanta

[finewine]

Nice pics in your movie there.  Be very sure about putting your transition in the public domain because that is a genie you can't easily put back into the bottle!  You'll need to have a thick skin for starters.  Good luck, eh?

Oh and you're originally from Cavite?  Hehe, my gf is going to Cavite tomorrow to visit her sister.