Immediacy and Necessity

[cindianna_jones]

Rafe,

Definitely, don't give up on your family.  You haven't even told them yet.  And you will get some negative reaction of some kind.  You are smart to realize that.  But don't ever give up on them.  Every single person in my family, and I had about the worst time I know of, has eventually come around to where we can get together and NOT talk about it.  The two worst are my daughter and my mother. I doubt that they will ever accept the TS thing. But both are thrilled to see me or talk to me.

It just takes time and a concerted effort on your part to let them know that you love them and wish to be with them.  It's really hard to fight against that.  The other thing is that I won't fight back.  In the beginning, if they wanted to fight, I wouldn't fight back.  I'd express my love for them and leave.  It finally caught on.  If they treated me with respect and dignity, as with any other member of the family, I would visit.  If not, I would not. But I never ceased to call and write.

Good luck to you dear.  BTW, I see nothing feminine in your pic.  I'm not sure what you are picking at !

Cindi

[Shayna]

Rafe,

We have chatted several times and Im sure you know how much I'm in your corner.  As you can tell from all the responses before mine, there is much love and support here for you.

Despite that feeling we all know of walking through the woods and feeling alone on that path, if you look around, you'll notice others on similar paths smiing at you.  I think most of us walk that path, urged on by that strong internal sense, somewhat fearful because we can't quite see the future as clearly as we'd like.

Recently, I told my daughters that I'm TS.  I prepared myself for the worst and hoped for the best.  In separate conversations, both of them said something very similar to me.  The depth and respect of our relationship would prevail even if they found they needed to go off for a while while thinking things through.  Should you find this the case with your parents, please keep the door open and love flowing.

Shayna