Point by point:
1. I never had any issues about being or feeling like a man. It just wasn't something that mattered to me. But I did often hear I was very secure in my masculinity. I guess when you're not worried about it, it comes across as being secure.
2. I integrated quite well in the masculine world. Most of my years in construction were in a supervisory capacity and I was almost always able to earn the respect of the men.
3. Most of the things I like to do and do well are considered male interests. Building, designing, math & science and sports.
4. Yes, I did envy the girls and wished I could be one. Of that, there is no doubt. But I never stared at my daughter's breasts nor did I feel any envy towards her.
5. I went farther in construction than most anyone in my trade. Only 5% make it to project manager, just one of the positions I attained.
6. Emotional wounds – everyone suffers some. It's unavoidable. And each person handles them differently.
The idea of boys being "lead into manhood" is seriously flawed. It's almost as if you don't do that he will end up never reaching manhood. You are who you are. If being a man is something that is natural for you, you'll do it, without being led. I have met many effeminate men who are great husbands, fathers, brothers and sons.
It seems to me the author would rather blame her father for failing to be a man than accept the fact her father was TG. Her denial has helped her create yet another guilt filled account of someone who can't face the truth.
Julie
