What do i expect

[phantom_heart]

With Adrianna having finally made the disson...what am I suppose to er...do. I mean HOW am I suppose to support her. What should i be doing to help. Also when she starts HRT what do i watch for. Any warning signs somethings not right. How long till she starts to feel any changes. (not necessarily see any) If you had me as an SO what would you want from me. I know many people are going to say ask Adrianna but i mean i just want to be there for her through it all but since we've both never been through this the people that have or are going through this know what to look for.

Any advise.

[colormyworld]

I have no experience with it, so I'm sure I won't be of much help, but I figured since nobody else has replied, I might as well give my input. LOL

Of course the most important thing is to just be there for her when she needs you. Remind her that she's not alone, that you'll always be there for her, etc. If she seems to be a bit depressed, little compliments don't hurt, just something as simple as telling someone that you like their hair or outfit or something is a great mood boost!

If Adrianna is in therapy, maybe you could tag along to some of the appointments and just duck in for the last 5 mins or so, and you can ask a few questions about what you can do to help and such.

[tekla]

I think this is (or very shortly winds up being) an experience that is unique with lots and lots of variables.  Other people's experience might be a guide, but not a template.

[Mister]

I have no experience with it, so I'm sure I won't be of much help, but I figured since nobody else has replied, I might as well give my input. LOL

Of course the most important thing is to just be there for her when she needs you. Remind her that she's not alone, that you'll always be there for her, etc. If she seems to be a bit depressed, little compliments don't hurt, just something as simple as telling someone that you like their hair or outfit or something is a great mood boost!

If Adrianna is in therapy, maybe you could tag along to some of the appointments and just duck in for the last 5 mins or so, and you can ask a few questions about what you can do to help and such.

Good suggestions here.  And also, it's her transition.  She's allowed privacy, groups and meetings and therapy and whatever alone.  It's great that you're clearly supportive, but give her some space to process and deal with changes and problems as they arise on her own if she chooses.

[Lori]

Well....

Everybody is different and takes to hormones differently. Mentally you are going to have a 13 year old crying girl on your hands going through puberty, and physically things will start to appear.

I'd say play it by ear and just be there to listen. Get lots of chocolate and wine and relax.

[Windrider]

I wish I could help you out. Dani won't be starting HRT until the Fall, so I don't really have any advice other than just keep talking. My 'how to be ready' post was asking a similar question, although I'll admit you phrased it better than I did

I have my own demons to work on currently...some of which I am now seeing are interrelated with my being ready as well (a whole boatload of crap from childhood that has followed through till now.)

So I suppose we can compare notes later, eh? ;P

WR