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Started by Melissa, September 17, 2006, 09:13:52 AM

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Melissa

Quote from: Cindianna_Jones on September 18, 2006, 07:32:25 AM
You'll be able to live without furniture.  If you need some creative ideas for something you can't afford, let us know.  I saw a kid build all of his furniture out of cardboard.  I set the line when he showed the comforter he made out of Apple containers.  That was a bit too much.
Furniture isn't a concern other than a bed.  I can pretty much take whatever I want with me.  I've been stuck sleeping in the same bed as my ex because we have a kingsize.  I'll probably want to get either a twin or full bed as a replacement since it won't take up so much room.  Twin would take up less room, but full would allow somebody else to stay over. ;)

Quote from: Cindianna_Jones on September 18, 2006, 07:32:25 AM
Food, as you mention, is a huge change.  You'll be surprised at how well you'll be able to manage your weight.  You are correct.  If you don't have it in the house, it won't end up on your waist.
Yeah, I like to do my own cooking at home, so that will be nice.  I need to get a basic set of cookware.

Quote from: Cindianna_Jones on September 18, 2006, 07:32:25 AM
After initial elation, you will face an extreme case of loneliness.  You have had a lot of attention thrown your way lately.  It hasn't been healthy perhaps, but there's not been a dull moment I suspect.  Don't let it get you down.
I'm sure you're right.  Have I mentioned that I've never lived on my own, other than on a long business trip?  I moved straight out of my parent's house and in with my soon-to-be wife.  Originally it was supposed to be temporary until I found a place because I was kicked out, but plans changed. :)  I went on a 6-week business trip in Canada in 2003 and although I had a person I was travelling with--she and I ate meals together and saw each other during the day--I would still get lonely at night sometimes.  During a 2 week stint in Calgary, I had a suite with a kitchenette and in order to save money, I bought a bunch of groceries and did my own cooking.  I would keep the place orderly and I'm sure housekeeping loved me since I would make their work minimal.  It was this experience that I knew living on my own was possible.  Oh, I did have a breif period of time (about 3 weeks) where my ex and kids was living with her mom.  Again, I was able to keep all my messes cleaned up and the place orderly. Anyway, I'm sure I would need to keep some sort of social life in order to combat the loneliness I will probably eventually face.  I might even get a room mate or something if I feel so inclined.  That would reduce costs and take care of the loneliness.  First I want to get my life in order though and have some much needed breathing room.

The other thing I want to do is set up an area in my new home for doing exercise.  I need to lose some pounds and I can only do so much with diet alone.  I'll probably do some kind of aerobics or dancing or something.  I know that's fun and will really get my heartrate up.

Oh, and Amber, I may take you up on that offer.  I used to be able to lift entire couches by myself, despite my girly looking arms, but I'm sure I don't possess the strength I once did.  Plus I'm older.  Maybe my ex would help me.  We'll see.  First I need to find a place.  I'm going to leave work early today to look at a couple places.  If I get a new place by the time we have Susan's fest, then I may invite everyone for a house warming party if I can get everything unpacked.  We will see.

Melissa
Posted on: September 18, 2006, 10:05:03 AM
Well, I did some apartment hunting today.  For the most part it doesn't look like there will be anything available until the middle of October or November that fits my criteria.  There is one place that fits it well and they might have a place being freed up that's available Oct. 1.  They are waiting for the people to give "official" notice first, which she thought they would do in the next couple days.

Until a place is available, I'll probably start packing up stuff.  I remembered today that I have a whole bunch of boxes in my garage that I can use.  One thing I just thought about today is that my credit report would probably still have my old name on it.  However, there is a law that's supposed to protect transgendered from being denied housing on the basis of being TG.  If I don't have anything right away, I will work on fixing the name on my credit report so that I am not discriminated on that basis, although there probably will be a prior name on it.  Oh well.

Melissa
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SusanKay140

Hey Melissa,

Great news - a new step in life regardless of the circumstances!  Moving out is always a big deal, and one to look forward to.  You have already gotten good advice here about it, and it seems you may now be facing one of the biggest downsides, delay - delay - delay.  The advice of patience is probably called for and the easiest to disregard.  Get what you want, not what's the first room that comes available.  This will be Melissa's place afterall.  And repeating what someone else wrote, get the computer!  You're too important to all of us to not be around!

Susan Kay
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Melissa

Quote from: SusanKay140 on September 18, 2006, 09:00:19 PM
And repeating what someone else wrote, get the computer!
Ah, you are assuming I only have 1 computer.  Actually, I have many computers.  There is the wife's computer, 1 for my son, but he ruined the hard drive, my stepson's computer, my server, my laptop, my karaoke computer, a couple extra computers I built, etc.  I will be bringing at least the server, my main computer (it has 2 monitors ;D), my laptop, my karaoke computer and any extra computers I have.  My wife and kids can keep their computers, but I built them all so I keep them (except the laptop, which I got out of the junk pile and repaired).  Trust me when I say that I won't have a problem logging on. ;)

Melissa
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SusanKay140

Melissa,

It's good news that I stand corrected, you not going to have any problem logging on with all that hardware!  You may have a problem lugging it all around though.  Better go for the larger U-Haul. 

Susan Kay
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Melissa

I'll just get a place that's not too far away and make a bunch of trips.  I'm excited.  I may not be on the forums that much as I will be doing stuff like packing.

Melissa
Posted on: September 18, 2006, 08:19:40 PM
Well, I did some apartment hunting on Monday and I ended up going to 3 places.  The first place said they thought they might have something opening soon, but had nothing official.  They said they would call me if they got something official.  The second said they didn't allow pets and the third and most expensive just didn't have anything until at least November.

Well, today the first place called me.  After work I checked my messages on the way out and they wanted me to call them.  They said they had a place available and that it could be ready by Oct. 1.  I went to call them on my way home, but my phone died.  After I got to my car, I called and left a message and they called me back.  They actually had 2 available, 1 on the 2nd floor and one on the ground floor.  I wanted the ground floor one and so I asked for that.  After getting some gas and stopping by my house to get a paycheck stub, I headed over to the office and filled out an application.  I was a little worried because I didn't have any rental history in the name of "Melissa" and I'm certain my credit report hasn't been updated--or maybe it has.

Well, I stopped by and the woman was very friendly.  I filled out the application and we chatted about things like my dog and our days at work.  Since I own my home, I didn't need to fill out any rental history, which is good, because my history sucked.  Well, it looks very promising.  I know my credit isn't that great, but with my income and the fact I own a home, there probably won't be any problem.  It may just increase the deposit.  I was able to fill out the app in a way that didn't out myself fortunately. 

My paycheck stub that I had grabbed was a couple months old and so they wanted something newer.  I have some newer ones at work still, so I'm going to fax that over to them along with another emergency contact.  Then it will get started.  Wish me luck.

Melissa
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SusanKay140

Luck - - Luck - - Luck - - Luck - - Luck, etc, etc.  If you need any more just holler.

Susan K
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nonie

Good luck :)  I'm sure you'll get it.
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Melissa

Thanks everyone.  Well, I faxed them the stuff, so they should start processing.  I also found something online that said they were offering 1 month free with a 12 month lease, so I sent them what I found to try and secure that deal.  If for some reason I don't get it, I found another apartment that would work well too.  Fingers crossed though.

Melissa
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Kim

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Melissa

YES!!!!!!!!!!  I got it.  I can actually start moving in on Saturday.  The special I found was not supposed to be offered and the site I found it on wasn't supposed to even be advertising for them.  What they said they would do is give me the rest of this month free.  I am so stoked.  I will drop off the security deposit of $300 tomorrow and I can start moving my stuff in the next day.  :icon_geekdance: :icon_rockon: :icon_woowoo:

Melissa
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angelsgirl

Congrats, chicky!

Just think, now you can decorate it however you little heart desires! 

I think that's the best thing of having your own place. When I got mine I just about went nuts!  I put up purple christmas lights, and got purple sheets and a duvet set for my bed, I was so happy!  Purple's my favorite color and I never could do that when I lived with my ex. He was "too manly" to sleep in purple sheets, so I traded him in for the not-at-all-manly. Now that I've moved in with Josi (a nickname for Jocelyn in case you don't know who I'm talking about) I get to keep my purple bedset, plus we got purple drapes for the bedroom and she loves it!

What do you think you will do with your new place?
If I lived closer I'd throw you a house-warming party!
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Melissa

Yes, decorating.  But first I need to take care of the basics.  I will need a new set of dishes and I have a ton of stuff to move.  Probably more than I would care to fit.  I'll probably end up moving a bunch of stuff and then realize I have no room for it all and need to get rid of it.  But I'm not opposed to throwing stuff out.  Especially if it's mine.  I'm definitely not a packrat and enjoy having space.  Well,I'm sure I will do a ton of packing now that the move-in date has been moved up by over a week.  In fact, I feel like I have more energy than I've had in a long time.

Melissa
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Mario

I am very happy for you Melissa. You will be so much more at ease now. Yes?

                                       Marco
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Melissa

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TheBattler

Congratulation Melissa,

There are always good things to look forward to.

Alice
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Kim

Excellenty!! So happy for you Melissa. Congrats on the new place  :angel:
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Melissa

Thanks so much.  I look forward to this new life of mine so much more than I did the one I had once thought I was condemned to have.  I thought I would forever be stuck in the life of a married man wishing I could have lived a single's life for even a few years.  Well, now I get to do it and as a woman.

Melissa
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amberwish

congratulations melissa.  wow  that was quick.  i am happy for you. remember if you need help moving i can help. just let me know.  i will be available most of saturday and any time sunday.


hugs and  :-* :-* amber
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Bob

Good for you Millisa !
Good luck ! <Hug>

Bob.....


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Melissa

Thanks.

Quote from: amberwish on September 22, 2006, 12:05:37 AM
congratulations melissa.  wow  that was quick.  i am happy for you. remember if you need help moving i can help. just let me know.  i will be available most of saturday and any time sunday.
Well, my ex is helping me with a lot of it, but if I need additional help, you'll be the first person I call.

I did a ton of packing last night.  My kids were even amazed at how much I accomplished.  When I went to bed, my sciatica was really bad, so I did as much as I could.  After work, I'm leaving a bit early to sign some papers and give my deposit.  After that, we're renting a u-haul and I'll start loading furniture tonight.  I drive over tomorrow and unload with my ex.  This is where I may call you Amber.  Then when that's all done, I go back and I have some garbage to bring to the dump from the house and then the truck will be returned.  Sometime tomorrow, I will probably do some shopping for some stuff I'll need like a microwave, laundry soap and some bathroom items.  I'm going to be very busy this weekend.  Sunday will probably entail moving additional items over by car or unpacking.  The following week will be more of the same.  Probably a lot of cleaning of the house and finding hidden items and bringing those over.  I don't even have an address yet, so I may be without internet for a little while, except at work.

Melissa
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