What is the allure of passing yourself off with somebody else's picture?

[lacitychick21]

I always kind of felt bad for people that did that intentionally. Like, there must be some psych issues at play when "you" isn't good enough. I always thought it was tragic. I've been duped into believing things like that before. It hurts me more than it makes me angry though. Not because they aren't as "passable" or "good looking" -- I just HATE liars.

Oh... and please excuse the Photoshopped-looking avatar... I has a blue desktop.

[Princess]

i really doubt that someone who posted the real picture of themself, and was not attractive, would be getting many replies or special attention, regardless of how many posts they have, or how much of a good personality they showed. a person who is just introducing themself on this website with a simple undetailed introduction, no avatar, and only one post, is probably going to get very few replies, but if they had a picture of "themself" on there, and it was an attractive person, that's one way of getting alot more replies. the popularity system over the internet can work just the same as it does in the outside world, except you have the ability to pass yourself off as someone you really aren't.

[finewine]

[...] I just HATE liars.

Ohh ako din!  (Me too!)   If there's one thing I prize more than anything else in a relationship, it's trust & honesty - one depends on the other.  Of course, most people claim to value honesty anyway, so sometimes you don't find out until something goes wrong.

I've had some bad experiences in the past and so liars get ejected from any relationship with me.  Fortunately I'm now with someone who seems to feel the same way I do.  Yay!

[Jeannette]

Re: What is the allure of passing yourself off with somebody else's picture?

Maybe some peeps put up other peoples' piccies as their avatar & claim to be them because of low confidence or maybe it's really them??  Not all trans people have got passability problems. 

Several years ago, posting my own photos in some TG sites in my country provoked a few of M2F transsexuals. They posted messages straightforwardly saying that they are just upset and can not endure the fact that my body line is more feminine them despite their long-time effort. I knew first from them that M2F TS are so much occupied in delicate lines of body in photo. Even some of them insisted that I am not transgender, but a kind of sexual pervert, as I do not plan to take HRT or SRS.

Finally, one of them posted my old family photo taken from my home page. I contacted Korean cyber police team, but did not get much help. I just closed my home page, and left TG sites in Korea to avoid further fusses.

Yes. Because I provoked them by my photos, they revenged by the same photos.

I like this site, as no TS showed any hostile feeling to me. I think transgenders in Korea are still developing their identities, concepts and careers to be accpeted in pulbic. Except a few famous TS entertainers, most of m2f transsexuals here are working in transgender bar at night. I am sympathetic to them, and do not want to provoke them by my own photos, although I am an extreme exhibitionismist.

Barbie~~

The trans community as a whole is guilty of inculcating these crazy ideas that if you're trans, you've got to look like a ->-bleeped-<- so when a passable trans person shows their piccie they're labelled dishonest. What a load of tripe!  It's happened to me in other places too & that's how I know. All the French trans sites are saturated with peeps that've been brainwashed to believe that trans women have got to look like drag queens & trans men like bearded ladies. God forbids somebody passable posts a piccie because they run the risk of being called liars.  How's that for moral support?

Me, I used to put up my piccies before but then I realised I was being an idiot & stopped because only an idiot posts themselves on a public website when they "don't want anybody to know".

[Annwyn]

Hrmm.  I did that a couple times on another forum when I was all big bodybuilder, before fulltime.

People talk to you differently.  It's nice. Nuff said.

[Chamillion]

People do this for the same reason that people exaggerate their accomplishments and downplay their flaws, to make themselves look better and gain the approval of others. It's dumb but people do similar things all the time.

[Butterfly]

I think that sometimes it's necessary for people to voice their opinions loudly.....just to prevent "the vultures" from getting closer.

Couldn't agree more, some people are just outspoken. They have nothing to hide and don't really care what people think of them or what they have to say.  I bark & I bark a lot.  I've learnt that to have a louder bark leads other people to leave me alone more easily whilst others have a louder bark because they know they can follow it up with a hard bite if they need to. Call it a warning. ~wink~

Maybe some peeps put up other peoples' piccies as their avatar & claim to be them because of low confidence or maybe it's really them??  Not all trans people have got passability problems. 
The trans community as a whole is guilty of inculcating these crazy ideas that if you're trans, you've got to look like a ->-bleeped-<- so when a passable trans person shows their piccie they're labelled dishonest. What a load of tripe!  It's happened to me in other places too & that's how I know. All the French trans sites are saturated with peeps that've been brainwashed to believe that trans women have got to look like drag queens & trans men like bearded ladies. God forbids somebody passable posts a piccie because they run the risk of being called liars.  How's that for moral support?

Me, I used to put up my piccies before but then I realised I was being an idiot & stopped because only an idiot posts themselves on a public website when they "don't want anybody to know".

Somebody accused me of using Shania Twain's pic when I first joined this site.  The amusing part's that I don't think I look like her but this person was convinced that it was Shania. ~laugh~

Putting up pics on TG websites is always a calculated risk when you want to keep your life private.  If you've got to post pics, be sure that when you take your photos there is nothing in the background or surroundings that could be linked to you, such as your home, neighborhood, or car.  Never keep them up for long & always delete them.

[tekla]

be sure that when you take your photos there is nothing in the background or surroundings...

... that make it look like you could not keep a house clean if your life depended on it.

[milliontoone]

A couple of reasons why someone might do this in my opinion:

The need for privacy/ stealth and not wanting to be exposed as a transexual

or

The person feels unattractive and places a high importance on physical appearance as a lot of people do more of us probably than we would like to admit and so uses the image of another in order to gain what they perceive incorrectly or otherwise to be a more positive reaction to them from others

There is one more reason that I can possibly think of which may pertain especially to the transexual and is a personal experience on my part.  Before I came out to myself I had a male online personna for many years which would bring me some small degree of satisfaction.  At the time I didn't know why I felt compelled to do this but now of course it all makes sense.  Now I usually would not have need to post a picture of myself or I would just choose an avatar when posting my work for critique on a forum etc.. (I write) but on one occasion I was talking as a male in a chat room with a woman and she requested a photograph of me. 

It seemed really important to me that she did not stop seeing me as a male not because of any real sexual interest but because it seemed really important at the time (again now I understand why) but I knew if I sent her a picture she would do so, this was pre T and when I was still presenting as female.  And so I found a random picture of what I imagined I would look like if I were biologically male and sent it to her.  It was a one off thing and we were not having any kind of relationship and the conversation was not overly sexual or anything although did get an "oh your cute" which made me feel sad because it wasn't me after all.

It never happened again probably because I got nothing from it and also because I didn't really use the internet for those kinds of purposes usually, this was an occasion wherby I had insomnia and so I was bored.  So I guess I would kind of understand it as a one off or mistake but people who do it knowing full well what they are doing and do it with the deliberate intention to deceive repeatedly I think need help.

I obviously did because I needed to come out.  So sort of self evident really.

[Lori]

Somebody accused me of using Shania Twain's pic when I first joined this site.  The amusing part's that I don't think I look like her but this person was convinced that it was Shania. ~laugh~

You are prettier than Shania Twain, so they didn't know wtf they were talking about. 

[Jeannette]

Couldn't agree more, some people are just outspoken. They have nothing to hide and don't really care what people think of them or what they have to say.  I bark & I bark a lot.  I've learnt that to have a louder bark leads other people to leave me alone more easily whilst others have a louder bark because they know they can follow it up with a hard bite if they need to. Call it a warning. ~wink~

I know where you're coming from.  Some peeps would want to silence you & love to shut you up . If you let them, they'll step on you.  They wanna be the only ones that monopolise everything & be "right" on top of that.  If you disagree with them, they've got power trips & you're labelled "ignorant" & "loud".  It's good that you know how to bite.  If biting doesn't work, you can always use an axe & cut their heads off, the same way they kill snakes.

[Butterfly]

You are prettier than Shania Twain, so they didn't know wtf they were talking about. 

Why, thank you Lori.  I wonder what happened to them.  Banned? ~wink~

[Suzy]

Well the ones I have caught using phony pics have real problems to begin with, and usually are a lot deeper than their honesty.  Usually most of their lives is spent in some sort of fantasy.  I just use a real pic because love me or hate me, what you see is what you get.

Kristi

[wannalivethetruth]

I don't know why people do this. They are insecure about themselves

[Nero]

Well the ones I have caught using phony pics have real problems to begin with, and usually are a lot deeper than their honesty.  Usually most of their lives is spent in some sort of fantasy.  I just use a real pic because love me or hate me, what you see is what you get.

Kristi

it'd be stupid to use a fake pic in your case, you're already gorgeous. 

[tekla]

>>>>>>>>>>>>> wishes she had used the pic of someone/anyone else so that I didn't have to see my own photo every time I go to the post office.

[Michelle.]

Mich', contemplates posting a picture of a female dogs backside. As many of you most likely think of me as either an a##/b!t(h/or a combo of the two. 

[Janet_Girl]

Mich', contemplates posting a picture of a female dogs backside. As many of you most likely think of me as either an a##/b!t(h/or a combo of the two. 

Most don't think that Mich'.  We know it.

Sorry, Hon, but you left the door open.


Janet

[Ms.Behavin]

Oddly enough my Avatar is just a photo of me. Un-retouched, well ok rotated 90 degrees as I was laying down.  I was home sick that day and decided that if I felt sick I would at least look good.  I've always used a photo of me as some of the older folks on Susans will remember.

Beni

[BridgetBby]

huh?!?
people really do this??!!!