I came out...and i told everything, but why is she acting like that...

[wannalivethetruth]

Ok, i told my mom everything. I planned the day out and asked could we go to the park, and we just started talking and i was hoping she would ask me how did i feel about guys. (She always had asked this questions , but i never told her how i felt really.) I let everything all out. "This is not me, i want to be a girl..all my life i have wanted to be, every since i could remember" ( I was laughing uncontrollably for some strange reason.) She didn't give a bad response, i told her she knew all a long and she said she expected it. So now, im planning to start my transition when I'M older. I still don't think she get's it, so tonight im going to get her to watch some videos and read things, maybe she can understand. She uses terms i feel uncomfortable with, calling me boy in some sentences, i just want to say "Ugh you don't get it, im not a boy" but i keep quiet. She has got me some therapy, should i go to it? She thinks they will give me some medication..... I told her theres no way to fix
"Me" because i don't need to be fix. Will therapy help me get the recommendation letter for the SRS quicker since im younger? What should tell my mom? help plz ?

[Zelane]

Go to therapy, but make sure the therapist knows and its certified to treat Trans issues. And dont feel bad about her still using the pronouns. I mean its just that you barely told her.

If it took you 16 years to come out and face this, give her at least that same time to come to grips.

Get her to read the online book of "mon I need to be a girl" that might help.

[Janet_Girl]

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[Lori]

Go to therapy.

[gennee]

Therapy with someone who knows gender issues is important. This is a change for your mom as well as you. She may trying to digest what you said so give her time.

Gennee

[RebeccaFog]

Hi,


Therapy is a good thing to do as long as you find yourself comfortable with your therapist once you get started. Just remember, it's about you finding your way and not someone else telling you what to do.

Also, It takes time for it to sink in. Your mother may say she expected it, but it is not real to her until you get going into your transition. It's stinks but sometimes you have to remember to bring the family along with you through each step. I guess that's just natural. Everything you have felt and that you know about yourself is yours to share according to your choices. Even mothers don't read minds, no matter what they tell us.

So having your mother see it will be different than just having her hear it. If possible, if you find your therapist helpful, you should bring your mother into some sessions. Along with the training videos you have, it will help her.



Rebis

[Suzy]

You are so young.  Please get some good help with someone who knows about gender issues.  You have a wonderful chance to do it at an age where most of your life is still in front of you. 

Best of luck, sweetie!

Kristi