For me it depends on how you view transexualism and the word stealth. Because I view transexualism as a medical condition I feel it shouldn't define who I am... so really there is no worry of having someone feel cheated if they find out. To me it's no different to say someone who was born with a birthmark or mole on their face that later they have removed. Should they tell people when they meet someone "hey I have to be completely honest with you, i was born with a birthmark on my face and had it removed". I don't see how it should be treated any different, especially when the media hype it up. In reality it ain't no thing... and most peoples reactions only back that up.
It doesn't define me, I am female and I feel that more often than not people present either male or female as a whole.. and if they present as something else then sure it may come up in conversation. Being "stealth" is not something I actively seek to do it just comes about from me being me.
Of course saying that.... with still being just on this side of the op-fence legally I no doubt get the hairy eyeball when my records show the indescripancy.. but that s only a matter of time.
Some people are cool about it all and tell others without any problem but I guess I worry that due to peoples general misunderstanding of the word transsexualism no doubt from the media and social stigmatism I feel that peoples views can unnecessary change when you tell them. Even when you pass completely as soon as they find out they change and speak to you like you're either a horny drag queen or something worth less than an empty carton of milk. To avoid that risk I just avoid the topic.
If the world praised us and held us up like gods then I would still see it as a medical condition that doesn't really make great conversation fodder. I'm not exactly proud of being born the way I was..but that's just me