Dreams

[K8]

What are you when you dream while asleep?

I don't ascribe a lot of importance to our dreams, but because we have almost no control of them they can sometimes be an interesting window to our subconscious.

In most of my dreams I have been just me – genderless.  Sometimes I am male.  Sometimes I am presenting female but have to deal with it in some way, either to avoid discovery or after discovery.  Last night, for the first time that I can remember, I was female in my dream.

When you dream, what gender are you?

- Kate

[LivingInGrey]

Most of the time I don't see myself in any way, as if it's unimportant to me, sometimes it's female.

[Constance]

Most of the time, I'm me and male. I have had dreams where I've been me and female or even someone else entirely. In the cases of the someone else, it's about hald-and-half male and female.

[Hector]

I don't have gender, sometimes I feel a little feminine, but recently I've been doing a lot of dreams of me being a manly girl and I always ask to myself in my dreams if I pass or not.
Also, I'm mostly attracted by guys, and I make a lot of dreams in which there is a guy (not always the same) who tries to seduce me and I always try to explain that I'm not the girl they think I am, but I'm a guy. They guys in my dreams never hear my words and they just continue to try to seduce me because they want me like a girl and I always feel so bad. 
I hope that with T all this dreams will go away 

[Tammy Hope]

Sadly, always male. I'd been wondering about this and actually considering starting a thread on it. I sometimes try to concentrate on my image of myself as female (not unrealistic but actually what I think I might look like) as I go to sleep but it never translates.

[Silver]

It depends on the focus of the dream. If it is external, no attention is paid and so I assume I appear as I appear currently. I have many dreams where I'm male, or dreams of having surgeries that would do something about my hips (nothing will help me in the real world). So likely male for the most part.

SilverFang

[Dante]

I kinda have an equal amount of both. In some dreams, I'm female (as I look now) and in some I'm male (as I wished I looked), and in others, I'm half-and-half, and in some I am aware of being trans. But most of the time, it isn't obvious, it's more like a strong feeling of awareness that I remember when I wake up. Like there is no proof that I was a girl in the dream (I never saw myself), but I had a sense that I was.

And if I'm ever someone else in a dream (not me as I currently am or the male version of me that I envision), I am always a male person.

[Mister]

In my last dream, I was a zebra.  Unsure if it was a male or female zebra, but I'm pretty sure I was a talking zebra...      Ah, painkillers...  they make dreams so interesting.

[sd]

When I was younger, I almost never saw myself in my dreams. Like i had no self image. When I did, it was usually non-descript, like seeing a shadow. Very rarely was I male.

As I reached my late 20's I stopped having dreams, or at least that I can remember. Then a few months ago I finally had one that I remembered and I was male, and it was a nightmare, I woke up thinking I will die as a male if I don't do something. Cliche', yes, but it got me started on therapy.

After that, I again went dreamless until a few nights ago. In them I was just getting to where I was beyond androgynous looking and started to dress and go out more. Basically it was me revealing myself to people, and it wasn't as bad as I expected (and yes I know reality can be very different).


I think dreams are many things, but I think they always serve a purpose if only to keep the mind occupied and active. Some may be to teach you how to deal with a bad circumstance or overcome a problem you have by allowing you to explore the possibilities as a result of your possible actions. Some may be warnings, others just food for thought or a way to explore your mind. My latest I think are preparing me for that day when I journey out and have to present to people I know and work with for the first time. Interestingly though, I am also starting to see myself in them, which like I said was something I never really had before. Like I am coming into focus.

[katherine]

This same topic came up several months ago.  My dreams are mixed.  Sometimes I'm female, other times I think I'm male but not sure.  It appears that in most of my dreams I don't have a specific gender.  Kind of strange sometimes when I give it some thought.  I've had dreams where I am physically male, but dress as a female.  Seems dreamland is just as mixed-up as real life...

[Genevieve Swann]

I must be male in my dreams. However the most memorable dreams always involve my femme persona.

[Teknoir]

I've been thinking about the same question for the past week myself. Great thread, K8  .

I'm either genderless (if it's more of an externally focused dream, the most common ones I have), or male (usually if I'm dealing with something that's been bugging me internally). It's been like that for as long as I can remember.

There was a brief period when I was attempting to live as female that I was female in dreams. All I had during that time were nightmares though. Nightmares in which everything went horribly wrong, and I was unable to deal with it.

What prompted me thinking about this was a dream I had about a week or so ago. I was me after top surgery and 2 years or so on T (complete with everything that entails). I woke up very happy, but then rapidly became disapointed as reality came flooding back. A week later and I still haven't shaken the disapointment and the strange feeling of loss.

I think it was my minds way of "testing out" how I really felt about some of the T effects I wasn't 100% sure I wanted, and if I could be happy living with the end result (given some of the limitations and general unpredictability due to genetic variables).