Quote from: Leigh on June 03, 2006, 05:15:58 PM
I suppose if a person needs that validation by a man then its fine. I just wonder why anyone would need a mans permission to be themself? Or, for that matter their ok to do anything!
Leigh
what are we talking about?
I need noone's
permission to do a damn thing.
a
very selective quote btw.
a bone to pick?
all I am trying to indicate:
if most people think you are a man, by default, that your appearance may
scream "male"
{EG: I have a beard. = can't pass all the time every day. Cart before the horse. >NG: Don't Work [
EG: the Bearded Lady Cafe notwithstanding, cause it EXISTS SPECIFICALLY IN A SUBCULTURE, not just a 'woman's space' but a subset of that, within a subset of that, outside of the male gender and/or sex]}, then CHANCES ARE you are unable to 'live as a woman';
or if you can, show me your alternative scenario. Please.
Posted at: June 03, 2006, 03:31:33 PM
IE: in mainstream society. I guess that implication is not strong
enough in what I wrote. Sorry.
It's a wide world out there.
I have been able to hold my own as what I am: a musician (not a male musician strictly, a pseudo-woman, a TS musician, all or none of the above, I don't care about that.)
(Again YMMV may well vary) society is structured currently as a patriarchy, I don't like it any more than Leigh does.
It is a fact.
I see problems in the interface of what I do (which cannot be that different than any other job, only more-or-less intense, more than most) with a male-dominated field, world, what-have-you, as not-woman, not-man.
Because people know my name connected to past work, can't go "stealth". Has to be pulled off properly. Can't be too
much of a frikkin joke.
I cannot hide in too much of a subculture.
YMMV.
