I've been threatened...

[tekla]

Don't believe everything you hear, the Florida Keys, which are about as East and South as you can get are pretty open.  NYC is wide open, if you can make it there.  Urban tends to be better than rural, and part of the Bible Belt are not exactly accepting.  But a lot of that depends on you.  You'll meet people here from just about everywhere. 

[Deanna_Renee]

You're also not too far from one of the top two photography schools in the world (okay, I'm not exactly sure of the stats, but my opinion) Brooks Institute. I believe they are in Santa Cruz. (okay, so not too far in comparison to living in like Atlanta where I am its right next door).

I used to be a commercial photog and had at one point looked into Brooks (decades ago). Also The Art Institutes offer a very respectable photography program (I graduated from there with BFA in Graphic Design and have several friends with photog degrees). These won't be a cheap as many in state schools, but aid is often available and it is typically a lot easier to be accepted.

Keep the grades up though, not many things more important than that - well your health and safety stand far above grades.

Deanna

[Inphyy]

You're also not too far from one of the top two photography schools in the world (okay, I'm not exactly sure of the stats, but my opinion) Brooks Institute. I believe they are in Santa Cruz. (okay, so not too far in comparison to living in like Atlanta where I am its right next door).

I used to be a commercial photog and had at one point looked into Brooks (decades ago). Also The Art Institutes offer a very respectable photography program (I graduated from there with BFA in Graphic Design and have several friends with photog degrees). These won't be a cheap as many in state schools, but aid is often available and it is typically a lot easier to be accepted.

Keep the grades up though, not many things more important than that - well your health and safety stand far above grades.

Deanna

Thanks I will look into that! :]
And I hope by the time that I gradute High School and become 18 that enough time would pass for my mom to be fully-accepting then maybe I can also get some support from her! ^_^

[Deanna_Renee]

I hope for the fully-accepting, but take what steps you can and remember that she will never really comprehend what you feel everyday and thank her for each step she gets closer to understanding. A little compromise - especially with mothers - goes a long way.

Deanna

[Inphyy]

I hope for the fully-accepting, but take what steps you can and remember that she will never really comprehend what you feel everyday and thank her for each step she gets closer to understanding. A little compromise - especially with mothers - goes a long way.

Deanna

I guess I should work on my mom for acceptance first then, since she'll always be a big part of my life! I have no dad so I won't have to worry about that...I guess just her and a few other family members; But the tough cookie is going to be my mom's dad, Larry. He is getting really old so when I say this, don't take it in a mean way, but likely the only way he'll accept me is when he is gone. He is a typical red-neck and hates anyone who doesn't fit under any of the norm. So likely even though it's sad to say, his death is likely the only way of acceptance.

[yabby]

She says that I don't listen to her and that i'm a bad child...She says i'm not normal and that if I don't straighten up and fly right, she might send me to Jev for being bad.

if she call the police and say: i want to drop my girl at a jev because she did not listen to me.  i think the police might have a very very good laugh at her. 

i hope that by straighten up she does not mean living as a man. but at your age i'll be more worried about getting hormones or t-blocker than being allowed to go to school wearing a green dress or not. you have an interest to get on hormone as soon as possible before T start destroying you and you start growing facial hair..........
Post Merge: August 16, 2009, 02:48:48 AM

Well I just wanted to wear a dress...I just don't get how an article of clothing could make someone go in a rage! Plus Scottish people (both men and women wear skirts or kilts.)

the thing is even genetic girls might not wear this to go to school as it look more like an evening dress. girls tend to wear different cloth depending on the time of the day if it is day or the evening. your priority should be to get hormones instead of worrying about the dress it is only 2 years and then you can do what ever you want.

[Suzy]

the thing is even genetic girls might not wear this to go to school as it look more like an evening dress. girls don't tend to wear different cloth depending on the time of the day if it is day or the evening. your priority should be to get hormones instead of worrying about the dress it is only 2 years and then you can do what ever you want.

Yeah, that is what I was trying to say.  A dress is fine, just maybe not that dress.  Or why not a skirt, or girly jeans with a nice top, or capris or walking shorts or whatever else is fine with your school's dress code?  Do you have access to different clothes?  Honey, how can we help?



Kristi

[MeghanAndrews]

Chino is a really tough area for expressing gender, isn't it Inphyy? The whole IE is I think, not 100% sure. I lived in Riverside for a few months last year and it was definitely a lot less "free" than LA. Just be careful with expressing yourself, as hard as it is to do that, and be careful, for the sake of you Meghan

[Inphyy]

Yeah, that is what I was trying to say.  A dress is fine, just maybe not that dress.  Or why not a skirt, or girly jeans with a nice top, or capris or walking shorts or whatever else is fine with your school's dress code?  Do you have access to different clothes?  Honey, how can we help?



Kristi

I do have different clothes and I was wearing different kinds of skinny-jeans and such throughout the week but since Friday was the last day of the week...I wanted to do something fun, like-able to me and creative. But my mom didn't take it that way and snapped (But I think she also has something else going on in her life), that she doesn't want to talk about...A simple dress wouldn't blow someone into complete rage.

[roo]

It was probably the straw the broke the camel's back... I'm pre-T (FtM) and not even exactly totally "out" with my mother but she's been suspecting that I want a sex change, so when she asked what haircut I was looking for and I showed her a picture (and I'd say it's more androgynous) she went into a rage.
It's not that manly, right? It's scary how she reacted though.  But it was mostly because she was worried about me, and it was pretty complicated... it's got to be hard (and really brave) of you to come out this early in your life, I wish I had instead of trying to conform.  But yeah, the best thing you can worry about now is getting the hormones and therapy... also, you're a really pretty girl.

[yabby]

I do have different clothes and I was wearing different kinds of skinny-jeans and such throughout the week but since Friday was the last day of the week...I wanted to do something fun, like-able to me and creative. But my mom didn't take it that way and snapped (But I think she also has something else going on in her life), that she doesn't want to talk about...A simple dress wouldn't blow someone into complete rage.

i would say take it easy and one step at the time, if you have those different cloth you are kind of lucky. most of TG people have cloth they hide under the bed and will dress in secret.

[Inphyy]

i would say take it easy and one step at the time, if you have those different cloth you are kind of lucky. most of TG people have cloth they hide under the bed and will dress in secret.

The thing with my mom is, Is with me wearing make-up, girly clothes, etc. -- She takes it as a phase or that I like the rocker style with the dark make-up but when it comes to point-blank total girly looks; She gets mad...

[CodyJess]

The thing with my mom is, Is with me wearing make-up, girly clothes, etc. -- She takes it as a phase or that I like the rocker style with the dark make-up but when it comes to point-blank total girly looks; She gets mad...

Then take the 'rocker style' and run with it. If you can express yourself without going overboard and making her flip out, then do that. It's certainly a lot more than some people have.  My mother used to flip her ->-bleeped-<- on me sometimes when I'd wear baggy men's pants instead of form-fitting feminine ones.

[Inphyy]

Then take the 'rocker style' and run with it. If you can express yourself without going overboard and making her flip out, then do that. It's certainly a lot more than some people have.  My mother used to flip her ->-bleeped-<- on me sometimes when I'd wear baggy men's pants instead of form-fitting feminine ones.

Sometimes I wear boy clothes, just to be a tom-boy! Aha...The irony of being transgendered MtF but also being sort-of a tom-boy! But for me I am Transgendered but most of my looks would fit into Rocker/Androgyne, I like unique styles and clothing that both men and women wouldn't typically wear.

[deviousxen]

Photo Art and Photo-Journalism and maybe even just photography! =^_^=

Art school/ Big art departments in a school are a good sign for you. I'm not saying art school kids are necessarily not totally sometimes shallow whores, but they tend to be wackier, and less hostile. But you really NEED to make sure you keep your grades up, and keep making art of any kind you can. Its always a start and your portfolio isn't just something that gets accumulated in a year. They all have different philosophies on what matters more with admissions... Very often ridiculous and backwards but sometimes it makes more sense with that.

But you must remember... You need a fallback school. Actually make a list of possible schools too... I remember I was accepted into most of them, but didn't get the scholarship and one flat out rejected me. You never know what an admissions dept will be like... Old, judgmental, close minded and not even artists themselves! Or people less fascist about a talent in observational/life drawing and stuff. They all have different preferences, and you need to also know that admissions depts. Don't always reflect the true nature of the school. You need to talk to students to get that in your mind... And teachers and ask them about their approach. For photography it may be different, but some schools demand variety, some potential and a sense of design, some want you to draw the Freaking fruit like a fruit. Some like a mix of different mediums. It depends.


I'm not saying WORRY about it right now, but you should definitely gain momentum to smash through into college. If you lose the momentum you have with your dreams right now, its very hard to spin it back again. Not impossible, but hard.

My goodness I'm tired.

i would say take it easy and one step at the time, if you have those different cloth you are kind of lucky. most of TG people have cloth they hide under the bed and will dress in secret.

And this is true in some ways. You're also gutsy to dress that way around your mom or a big scary testicles man like that. I'm still freaking terrified of dressing femininely near her... Or my brother... Or acting like it at all (Let alone being near a terrifying violent vibe-giver like that...) My persona just kind of... Retreats generally.

I think I used to cover up my chest every time I was in this house... Not doing that anymore, but you definitely have more guts than most (and me) and you look passable.

[tekla]

Also try to check out how many of their graduates are doing something in art vs. working at Starbucks.  Not all schools are equal in their placement, or their products.

[Inphyy]

I'm head-strong and I have courage! Just sad now though, she's trying to get me in trouble and like I said, she's taking the internet and the Socal Security people are coming out soon to check out the house, she's calling all her friends and making lies about me, to get them on her side.

[deviousxen]

Also try to check out how many of their graduates are doing something in art vs. working at Starbucks.  Not all schools are equal in their placement, or their products.

True. A places reputation does a lot... Even if their teachers were velociraptors and John Malcovich was their graduate D:

Also if their credits can be transferred, cause some places don't even recognize each other. Its nutty. You'll soon realize what a shark pit college applications are, and that thinking about it all early was a better idea. Not worrying but planning. Plan but never expect one plan to work out. Think of it as writing for television shows... Only less degrading over time

[eshaver]

I often refer to Richmond Virginia as  "The Land That Time Forgot " . While we do enjoy holding onto our traditions here , we still have somehow allowed  NEW things  to appear. Also Richmond enjoys a very lagge abiet  " Closeted " transgendered population . I know who ya are as I deliver to Wal - Mart and I shop Good Will too much. Granted , we're a stop on Interstate -95 on the way to New YAK or LANDO . Still we have Virginia Commonwealth University and Medical College of Virginia or a part of V C U Medical. We have within the acidemic campus a business school fully acredited , an engineering school and a very prestigious arts and design school as well. Meanwhile if you wish to study medicine , go over to V C U Medical ! You're liable to see me at the hospital even .
   Meanwhile , you're two hours from the beach, two hours from Washington D C and mabye an hour and a half from the mountians and the Red Necks . Well we got them here too but in so far as some , they're pretty tame .
   I once studied printmaking and Photography years ago at V C U , their professors are well of the moderate Gay and Trans population here , try us out !   Ellen Shaver

[Inphyy]

The school toke my mom's said, they say if I wear a dress tomorrow I can get in trouble for breaking school violations...Wearing a dress isn't breaking school violations, If so half the girls would be in trouble then! Does anyone know any Transgendered Rights people I can call about this?