Confusion/comfort

[Calistine]

Well I came out about a month ago. Sometimes I suffered, but now i feel very comfortable for who I am. I don't care much for the gender issues anymore, im just me. Ive just become kinda apathetic. I like living as a boy but I don't think much about it anymore as a problem. Is that normal?

[roo]

Does this mean that you're not interested in having T at this point? I think I know what you're saying though. Does your family know?

[LordKAT]

I've given up on defining normal. So yes works.

[Calistine]

Does this mean that you're not interested in having T at this point? I think I know what you're saying though. Does your family know?

Yeah, and this was just a one day thing. But I am very interested in t.

[Mister]

I'm not really sure how you can "live as a boy" without coming out, changing your name, etc.

[Calistine]

I'm not really sure how you can "live as a boy" without coming out, changing your name, etc.

Well Im part time right now. I only am closeted in school because its easier. I plan to go full time when i go to college next year.

[Teknoir]

I'm not really sure how you can "live as a boy" without coming out, changing your name, etc.

Coming out is a must either way (to those who know your past), but if you're starting a new job / study at a new campus and have a name that can be shortened to go either way it's somewhat possible (although you've got to pass at least most of the time - hard without T).

Those are a lot of "lucky" things that have to line up. Only a minority of people can pull that off. And it's not going to keep "working" once you start getting older.

You also have to put up with being "out" to some people (teachers / HR / Admin staff) who deal with you formal birth name paperwork and rely on them to keep your birth name and gender markers quiet.

I'll agree, it's not a patch on real transition - but it can make things a heck of a lot more comfortable while awaiting T and scraping up the cash for the name change / therapy.