hrmmm... not your wife then maybe.
I think the church and the TS community are going to give you two very conflicted stories here. I think you need a middle ground, like a generally qualified and experienced psychologist. I'd suggest an atheist, but im biased.
Nothing wrong with being a feminine guy, i know how to win your wife over, try doing all the housework for her, try to convince her that bending the gender roles works in her favour?
Try speaking to people outside your community, and outside TS community. Not sure where you'd find them. Universities are good, at least they are in austrlia, and a lot of unis have clubs and stuff that non-students can also join. If there is a big non-religious university near you maybe go along and try to find some new friends?
OR a good safe way to do a bit of experiemnting is to give your dressing a fun context, like joining a medievil re-enactment group or an ameture acting collective.
also try some interesting sub-cultures, try artists and musicians, they are good fun to hang out with, and tend to be quite open minded.
