I wonder where you all get your information from. Social Security is a federal office, so it should be the same in all 50 states. I just received my yearly form from Social Security and I also went down to change my name and gender. On my yearly statement it has no mention of gender on it anywhere and neither does my wifes. When I went down to change everything over, years ago, I did not have to state what gender I was. I just changed my name. They gave a new card and no where on the card does it say male or female. So, I guess I'm out in lala land again, cause I can not find anything with a gender marker on it in the Social Security department. If you do, would let me know where to look. As I have been down to the office several times for a mistake in my name. I also told them my gender and they just look at me like Well, so, are you complaining or bragging?
Sheila