Why do you come to Susan's?

[Hikari]

One of the biggest reasons why I come here is to build confidence and get myself more confident in my GID.

See in the past even though I knew about it, I really tried to convince myself that it wasn't the way I was, about two years ago I ended the prohibition on writing about it in my diary I had felt that if I talked about it, it became more 'real' which was scary. Later, once I had thoroughly worked over some of these issues in my diary, I felt that I needed to come here and discuss and understand, which helped me build my confidence in myself to the point where recently I finally told someone IRL. I think this site has been instrumental in reducing my fear.

[Mythic]

I'm new. I'm here to understand transsexualism

[Stella Blue]

I come here for information and to read others experiences, which alot of the time are similar to some of my experiences or feelings. Gives me a sense of not being so alone because I can't relate to anyone around me where I live in many ways. Also to ask questions when I feel the need or to comment on anything not even having to do with trans issues. I like the people, and it seems to be much more drama free than alot of other message boards I have come across in the past!! 

[K8]

I'm new. I'm here to understand transsexualism

Welcome to Susan's, Mythic. 

There's a lot of good information and good people here.  Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common.  Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.

Be sure to look under the Announcements heading.  There you will find the rules we live by in this little world of ours:

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions
  
• Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)
  

Look through the other stuff there, too.

Happy exploring.

- Kate

[NDelible Gurl]

I come because we all pretty much share the same experiences. Reading the threads is helpful and often gives me the confidence and courage to pursue my dreams

[Eva Marie]

I come here because there are like minded people that can understand.

Out in the real world, such people are few and far between.

[Zack]

I came here because of the interesting threads & to speak with open minded people.
Hopefully to gain more confidence as well.

[Jam]

I come on here so i can chill out and not have to worry how others percieve me. I can completley relax, where as out and about in the big wide world i have to restrain myself of like even the way i'd normally walk or sit so i don't get stared at. It's so frustrating i don't really like going out anymore =/  if i didn't have my friend i'd probably be a hermit.

(aw twit! flies landed in me tea )

[Hurtfulsplash]

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and experiences
To find friends
To become part of the online community
To learn how do deal with certain issues

[lightvi]

Mostly to make some friends and not feel so alone, I don't know any other trans people in real life yet :(.

[LaPapito]

"I come to Susan's First and foremost for the obvious...to net-work with like minds...
Secondly, I come to Susan's because I kno' who I am and I don't have to justify meself to anyone (here)...und
Thirdly, I come here because I can be me here, I can socialize tha way I want to und how I want to without someone being derogatorily hypocritical..."

[Ruben]

I come here to learn more about how to deal with my issues, how to approach family with my problems, read about others and how they have dealt/are dealing with their own issues, and so on. And, of course, to meet others in a similar situation and network a bit.

[Linus]

To be able to have discussions without being moderated from the get-go. I certainly understand being moderated if I do something wrong but when I'm trying to engage in a conversation to have every post moderated is hard for me. I like getting into conversations, getting into them deep and even, sometimes heated.

[Legora]

Hmm... I guess mainly I'm curious about transsexuality.  I have a couple of transwomen friends and I just feel so goddamn sad for them.  It's really unfair...

But anywho, I'm curious about what it's like to be transsexual.  But I feel really bad asking these friends really personal things, because I just want to treat them like normal ladies.  I mean, I don't ask those kinds of probing questions to my, uh... well, for lack of a better term "normal" friends.  But that doesn't prevent me from being curious about this stuff.  If that makes sense...

[LordKAT]

Education always makes sense. Lurking for ....personal or sexual or the need to see a freak don't. I'm not saying you are the latter. I am saying, that some people are like that. I'm glad you want to 'expand your mind' and learn more and do so without offending friends. That shows compassion.

[Legora]

Education always makes sense. Lurking for ....personal or sexual or the need to see a freak don't. I'm not saying you are the latter. I am saying, that some people are like that. I'm glad you want to 'expand your mind' and learn more and do so without offending friends. That shows compassion.

Is that directed at me?  And if so, have I um... have I been offending people?   I'm sorry... 

Maybe I worded that weirdly or something... I just wanna understand more and stuff...  It interests me because it's so sad and ignored by society and stuff... I dunno, I'm not very good at expressing myself... Sorry...   

[K8]

No need to be sorry, Legora.  I think LordKAT was saying that your interest in learning more about what it is like to be transsexual is good if you are doing it to be more compassionate and understanding of your TS friends.

But we get some lurkers who are here only for some kind of titillation, thinking we are freaks in the zoo or something.  It's annoying.  We are normal people born with a normal condition of having our bodies and souls misaligned.

Education is good.  Broadening your mind is good.  Realizing that there is more variety in humanity than some narrow-minded people will admit is good.

So stick around, Legora.  Read the rules, particularly Rule 9.  I think that was the one LordKAT was referring to.

Welcome.

- Kate

[Legora]

No need to be sorry, Legora.  I think LordKAT was saying that your interest in learning more about what it is like to be transsexual is good if you are doing it to be more compassionate and understanding of your TS friends.

But we get some lurkers who are here only for some kind of titillation, thinking we are freaks in the zoo or something.  It's annoying.  We are normal people born with a normal condition of having our bodies and souls misaligned.

Education is good.  Broadening your mind is good.  Realizing that there is more variety in humanity than some narrow-minded people will admit is good.

So stick around, Legora.  Read the rules, particularly Rule 9.  I think that was the one LordKAT was referring to.

Welcome.

- Kate

Hehe, yeah, sorry.  I, um... I need to learn to take things less personally.  I'm sure you get a lot of people who think of this like... fetish fuel or to be mean or something...

But, um... thank you very much for the warm welcome!  I read the rules, but... I can't remember which one #9 is, hehe.  Thanks!

[LordKAT]

Legora, You offended no one that I know of. Once again Kate has saved the day and interpreted my post correctly and with better writing than I.

[Emmik]

I came here for information. I stay for the company. There are few places online where I can be accepted as myself, without having to explain myself.