Where is the scariest place you have been?

[Janet_Girl]

After reading Dee's encounter with Richard Cranium, I got to thinking.  Where is the scariest place you have been in your transition?

I will start.  When I first came out there were two that were the scariest place I have ever been.  The first was Walmart.  And it was the first of the month ( every person gets their food stamps ) and ours is filled with Hispanics.  Now I have nothing against Hispanics, but the men seem to be very aggressive around my area.  I suspect many are in gangs, because we have problems with that sort of thing here. 

Any way, I was worried about being approached and confronted.  But while I got some looks and snickers, it was pretty much just another day shopping.

The second was when a friend and I went to the local truck stop for dinner.  Truckers can be homo/transphobic and I was worried.  But again, some looks but everyone was perfectly fine.  I have even been in the bar there and got hit on by the very people I feared.

Get out there, fear your fears and get living.  I have learned that they can stop me from being me.


Janet

[Northern Jane]

In the back of a van, semi-conscious, after being abducted by 2 men off a Toronto street in the late evening in 1966 and being driven toward an abandoned industrial area.

[Alex_C]

So far, getting hooted/catcalled a bit at the gym when leaving for the day, it was at night, and I think that the people who did it either felt bad or got a talking to, since it's not been repeated, and I think it may have been because they thought I was a ->-bleeped-<-gy GUY instead of a FTM, because they saw me leaving the women's shower and figured I'm going the other way lol. But I was wondering for a bit there if I was going to have to put up with a lot of harassment there.

[sneakersjay]

In a crowded men's room in a truck stop in Northern Arizona when I was just (barely) passing.  I walked in, did my thing in a stall, washed hands and left pronto, didn't make eye contact with anyone to see if anyone raised an eyebrow or not.  But I was scared as hell and at the time remember WTF do you think you're doing?!  I was also 3 weeks post hysto and in no shape to defend myself at all if confronted physically.  But I had been on a high after being sirred several times after getting off the plane, so I went for it.


Jay

[Bellaon7]

I was going to say Utah until I read the during trans. part. The first time I walked out my front door dressed as a female, hooker makeup job & all. The second scariest was being at work & being forced to use the mens changing room & restroom even after submitting two drs letters to hr explaining my situation need to use gender appropriate facilities. I wasn't scared of the guys, they never hassled me. I was scared of myself & gonig sprayn' pray postal.

[Walter]

In a crowded men's room in a truck stop in Northern Arizona when I was just (barely) passing.

I'm curious as to what part of Northern Arizona because I live there

Now I have nothing against Hispanics, but the men seem to be very aggressive around my area.  I suspect many are in gangs, because we have problems with that sort of thing here.

Same way in my town. I think this is why I'm sort of afraid of Hispanic men

[K8]

My first time out dressed as Katherine, I went to an LGBT dance.  I dressed in the motel and drove over, very afraid I would get in a crash and have to stand around talking to the police in my skirt, heels, etc.  When I got to the place, it was in the basement of a small airport.  A plane was just leaving, so the place was filled with well-wishers.  The floor was terrazzo - impossible to walk across unobtrusively in heels.  When I got to the dance they asked my name and I drew a blank - which name?  I had evidently used up all my psychic energy just getting there.

Later, full time, I was scared to go to the rifle range - it's such a guy place and potentially rednecky - but was treated very well.  (Some of those rednecks can be very chivalrous. )

So far *knock on wood* those were the worst.  (Now, when I was trying to be a guy, that's another story - beat up, shot at, etc.  So far being Kate hasn't been too scary.)

- Grateful Kate

[Bellaon7]

The rednecks show me a similar respect. They probably had a good laugh away from me(doesn't, bother me), but I've never had one mess with me & they do tend to openly practice chivalry.
Post Merge: October 23, 2009, 10:09:45 PM

Post Merge: October 23, 2009, 08:10:01 PM

[myles]

The first time I used the mens restroom at a professional sporting event (the mens rooms are always packed there). Especially since I sit to pee so I had to use a stall. All went well though. Nothing nearly as bad as general life stuff yet.
Myles

[Suzy]

The first time I went to a bra sale at JC Penney.  It was packed with women, one of whom insisted on chatting me up while I was in line.  But I sucked it up and used the dressing room too.  Now if there is anywhere the ladies might get a bit aggressive it might be in the dressing room when they realize something might be amiss.  Luckily, all went just fine.  The sales girl even complimented me on the one I bought, and said she wears those too.

Kristi

[Alex_C]

Northern Arizona IS scary, having lived in Dewey, Chino Valley, and been in Flag and Williams a few times, I can tell you, that's one scary, spread-out, melanin-deficient ghetto. The crime rate is high and the craziness higher.

Glad you got out of it OK. Next time wear a Wrangler shirt and have a bit of "chaw" in yer mouth, spit a lil' and you should be OK no matter how jiggly your moobs.

[Walter]

Northern Arizona IS scary

Flagstaff is where I live. I didn't know the crime rate was high, but I can tell from the people I've seen that it doesn't look too safe in the streets at night

[V M]

Starting HRT. I'm not sure if I was more afraid of starting or of not being able to start.

The next biggest fear would be SRS. I'm a big wuss when it comes to surgery.
But mostly I am afraid of not being able to finance it.

I've already been in plenty of scary places before deciding to transition.

I'm still sighing a sigh of relief

[Michelle.]

My own head.

[Imadique]

In the back of a van, semi-conscious, after being abducted by 2 men off a Toronto street in the late evening in 1966 and being driven toward an abandoned industrial area.

Show off 

Nothing stands out, probably the first time out dressed (and without a clue how to do makeup/hair/clothes etc). Probably delayed my progress a bit as I was in no hurry to do it again.

Most recently it's just the workplace where there is a constant fear of being outed by customers from my former job (it's in the middle of a shopping centre in the same town). A customer actually did it yesterday, not sure if I got away with it or not (pretended not to see/hear him calling me "MR SCOTT!!!" - even though he was right there at the counter and there's no one else he could be referring to - and ran to the bathroom)...it's all a bit ridiculous 

[Northern Jane]

Show off 

I'd rather not have been there!

[Robin_p]

On a working vacation in BALTIMORE, MARYLAND!

We left the inner harbor and went into the urban area by mistake and went shopping at MONDAWIN Mall. Oblivious we were.

I'm not around guy's much (Oblivious) so when two older black guy's started hitting on me i was clueless, just smiling and chatting away until my girlfriend kick me in the shin and passed me a note saying to stop talking to them. That's the first time every that i felt vulnerable and noticed they were treating me like a innocent naive tasty pork chop.

Other than that i try to be home when the lights come on!

[Blanche]

In a security room, being scrutinized in Damascus airport in Syria. 

[xsocialworker]

1965 in Meridian Miss . I was a Freedom Rider and got questioned by the "fuzz". Nothing that bad happened however.

[cynthialee]

In a gang war staring down the barel of a glock.