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The Wooden Bowl

Started by Julie Marie, October 08, 2006, 11:25:59 AM

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Julie Marie

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table.

But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about father," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor."

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl!

When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometime he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?"

Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents,you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life."

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

And I've learned that I still have a lot to learn!
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.
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Laurry

Julie,

That was beautiful.  Thank you so much for sharing that with us.  Sometimes we all need to look at life through the eyes of a 4-year old...removes all the filters we build in.

...Laurie
Ya put your right foot in.  You put your right foot out.  You put your right foot in and you shake it all about.  You do the Andro-gyney and you turn yourself around.  That's what it's all about.
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Owen

 This was very touching Julie. Thank you for sharing

Owen

Love being female :angel:
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Genevieve

That was so beautiful Julie!

Thank you so much for sharing that.    :)

Gwyneth
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Robyn

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Nice to see that one again, Julie.  It continues to touch me, not that I expect to ever be cared for by any of my children.

With the onset of pain and difficulty walking at times, I am beginning to see the affects of aging.  It gives one pause.

Robyn
Sexy Senior Citizen
When we walk to the edge of all the light we have and take the step into the darkness of the unknown, we must believe that one of two things will happen. There will be something solid for us to stand on or we will be taught to fly. — Patrick Overton
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cindianna_jones

Yes indeed..... .  I see a copy of your touching story stuck to my son's fridge typed in easily seen large letters.  I myself, am sitting on his kitchen floor playing with scraps of wood!

Nice allegory Julie.  I truly enjoyed the message.

Cindi
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BrandiOK

  Great story Julie  :) ,

  I was just sitting here thinking that today was going to be another miserable Monday and reading your post made me put some things back into perspective.  Today will probably still be miserable but at least I'll feel guilty about thinking that :P .
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cindianna_jones

Quote from: BrandiOK on October 09, 2006, 11:28:51 AM
  Great story Julie  :) ,

  I was just sitting here thinking that today was going to be another miserable Monday and reading your post made me put some things back into perspective.  Today will probably still be miserable but at least I'll feel guilty about thinking that :P .

And don't forget Brandi, you can feel guilty about feeling guilty!  Pile it up while you're at it! ;)

Cindi
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Laurry

Excellent response to Brandi, Cindianna.  I tried and couldn't think of a thing to add.  LOL

I thought of my son's fridge when I read your initial response.

....Laurie
Ya put your right foot in.  You put your right foot out.  You put your right foot in and you shake it all about.  You do the Andro-gyney and you turn yourself around.  That's what it's all about.
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Julie Marie

Quote from: BrandiOK on October 09, 2006, 11:28:51 AM
  Great story Julie  :) ,

  I was just sitting here thinking that today was going to be another miserable Monday and reading your post made me put some things back into perspective.  Today will probably still be miserable but at least I'll feel guilty about thinking that :P .

Brandi, I do that too, think about what a crappy day I have ahead, and it hasn't even happened yet! But when I think about how my life was and how I felt so alone...

Now I am living a life I never dreamed I could and I have friends like you and Cindi and Robin and Steph and on and on.  And I didn't even mention those people in my life who knew me before and have accepted me for who I am. 

I will always hold that we are some of the strongest of God's creatures.  To stand alone in the face of a crowd that scorns and rejects us and to do so with dignity and courage puts us among God's most admirable creations.  We are not defined by the challenges we are given.  We are defined by how we respond to them. And you have responded well.
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.
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Ricki

That was perfect thank you!  considering the mess of a week i had reading that helped!  I was etting myself up to have a bad weekend somehow maybe it's not going to be that bad!
R
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