Slate: Advice from 'Dear Prudence'
Incompatible sex drives, men who want to be women, accidental infidelity and nightmare mother-in-laws
Emily Yoffe
Slate Advice Columnist
Monday, November 2, 2009; 2:00 PM
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/discussion/2009/10/26/DI2009102601969.htmlLondon, U.K.: Dear Prudence,
A very dear friend of mine seems to be going through a sexual identity crisis. He has dabbled in cross-dressing, sexual relationships with other men, and has even experimented a bit with female hormones. I want to be a supportive friend, especially since his family may or may not accept his sexuality, but there is a catch. He has a girlfriend, who seems to be completely in the dark about all of his "extra-curricular" activities. I've mentioned my discomfort with this state of affairs, but this only elicits vague promises that he will have an honest conversation about this with her "one day". Lately, he has assured me that he is done with "that life" and that he is perfectly happy with his girlfriend. But I'm so afraid that he's turning his back on his own sexuality and settling for a life of miserable conformity. Now that he and his girlfriend are getting married, the stakes are even higher. Please, Prudie, what should I do? Should I tell the girl what I know about her fiancé? We live quite far apart, so a face-to-face chat is impossible. I hate the thought of devastating this sweet girl, but I'm also consumed with guilt at the thought of keeping her in the dark. Is action a moral imperative, or an unforgivable interference in another person's life?
Not Normally a Meddler
