So...Ahhh...feel kinda weird asking this ha BUT!

[Kris]

So i was wondering..i feel kinda weird asking this but here goes...im in a relationship and I still havent under gone any bottom surgery or been on T. Well our sex life is pretty good i guess but I dont let her do stuff to me just because I feel like im a man and i dont want to look down and see her doing that stuff so we do stuff other ways. Well we were talking and she wants to please me too just as much as I want her to and I just want to be able to have as "normal" sex as we can. I told her I could buy a strap on but she said she wants to be able to please me just as much as I would please her so back to my question...Is there anything out there that can please me and her at the same time as having sex with I was born a guy, does any of you have anything that actually works well? hah sorry yeah i know this sounds pretty ahhh weird lol so yeah im going now thanks! 

[Kris]

I remember seeing one time a dildo that had a hole going from where the urethral opening would be down to where you would stick it on top of your junk, so that when the dildo was sucked on you would feel the suction as well. I tried to Google around a bit for it, but I couldn't find it. Maybe someone else will know what I'm talking about.

dang wish i knew what you were talking about man, that would be pretty awesome..well hey its cool thanks for trying

[FlorDeLuna]

I remember seeing one time a dildo that had a hole going from where the urethral opening would be down to where you would stick it on top of your junk, so that when the dildo was sucked on you would feel the suction as well. I tried to Google around a bit for it, but I couldn't find it. Maybe someone else will know what I'm talking about.

OMG! that would be amazing!!

-I'd really like to hear some other thoughts on this... This is what I am having an issue with as well. My guy is a Top, and claims that he would be satisfied that way...  However, I have difficultly in accepting this, and I want to make him feel as good as he makes me feel. We're just kind of at an awkward place where I suggest something (blindfold?) and he says he doesn't think that would work.

Because we haven't actually had sex yet, all of this is still in the talking stage, but the time is rapidly approaching.

I am wondering if if this is a trust issue, wherein, given enough time he would be comfortable enough with me that he will allow me to manually or orally manipulate him (without any "attachments") OR if this is more of a dysmorphia issue where he will never be comfortable with me in that area.

We have really open communication, so it's not like I haven't asked him, to which he says that he just isn't sure... (fair enough) I am mostly interested in hearing various experiences of how you handle this.

[sneakersjay]

Strapons will work.  Or the Share is awesome if he's not opposed to having something 'in' there himself.  I can attest that when I've used it it was far less about feeling like I was a bottom but more gave me control and sensation of being a true top, if that makes sense.  But I know some guys can't do that.

A lot of guys also get a prosthetic and wear it without a harness but use snug briefs (1-2 pair) and put the shaft through the fly, which works well also.


Jay

[cynthialee]

I am MTF but I think I might have somethng to offer here...
I don't realy like alot of 'hetero' sex but I am married to a GG. So I am willing to take one for the team on occasion. I prefer to keep it in the realm of lesbian. However she has needs and I did marry her. I may be playing a part for her but she is happy with the results... It's just a short amount of time anyways, not like I was going to be doing anything else constructive. And even though I am not happy with most 'hetero' sex it can be ok because I really love my mate.
/that make any sense?

IDK. just my 2 cents

[Christian]

The brief method can be kind of weird. Stuff slips around a lot. I used to date another FTM and it never worked for anal. I don't know how it would be vaginally. I've never used a harness...mostly because I'm afraid to, but they probably are the best way to go. I think any strap-on could be pleasurable for both partners (as long as it's sturdy and close to the skin of the wearer) and there's also the whole "phantom penis" sensation.

[Quicksand]

I saw a strap-on/packer that has a metal bead/bump on the base that, when positioned correctly, should stimulate the clitoris during intercourse.  I'll search around for the link; I remember it was on a website with a lot of packers for FTMs, so hopefully that's a good sign about its functionality for FTMs!

[FlorDeLuna]

My guy says that he can climax from penetration (him penetrating me) but....

That's less of something I'm doing, and more something that just "happens".  Which is fine and wonderful that we can both climax together, but I just wish there was some way I could give back what he gives to me.

[Kris]

I saw a strap-on/packer that has a metal bead/bump on the base that, when positioned correctly, should stimulate the clitoris during intercourse.  I'll search around for the link; I remember it was on a website with a lot of packers for FTMs, so hopefully that's a good sign about its functionality for FTMs!

hey thats pretty bad ass...thanks for helpin, hopefully i can find it

[Osiris]

Trippsta, any strap-on if placed properly will provide clitoral stimulation. There are also some strap-ons that come with a built in vibe that will also provide stimulation.

Just shop around you'll find somethin.

[Elijah3291]

I saw a strap-on/packer that has a metal bead/bump on the base that, when positioned correctly, should stimulate the clitoris during intercourse.  I'll search around for the link; I remember it was on a website with a lot of packers for FTMs, so hopefully that's a good sign about its functionality for FTMs!

well there is this very expensive packer, prosthetic that did that.. it is one of those packers that also gets hard, so you can pack and play, and when erection had a little knob for clitoral, or enlarged dick sensation

[Radar]

It's the Tyron 2.

[xxaussiexx]

The one with a bump at the base that provides stimulation can also be bought at Mango BUT no point in oredering from them as they're useless.  That was the one that I acutally ordered this yr in Feb but never got it!  It was around $60US...

[Kris]

The one with a bump at the base that provides stimulation can also be bought at Mango BUT no point in oredering from them as they're useless.  That was the one that I acutally ordered this yr in Feb but never got it!  It was around $60US...

Dang that would put a big hole in my pocket ha. Yeah I hear Mango has good stuff but they are really bad at coming through with there orders.
Post Merge: October 30, 2009, 09:42:03 AM

It's the Tyron 2.

Dude that Tyron2 is straight out awesome as hell. I am pretty much really wanting one of those now ha then I looked at the price...1,784.02 USD. I would have to pass up on that one. It is cheaper then the surgery and less painful by far but if I can save up 1,784 I should just go all the way and save up a few more thousand and get my top surgery done you know? but thanks for the info...Really helpful 

[notyouraverageguy]

I remember seeing one time a dildo that had a hole going from where the urethral opening would be down to where you would stick it on top of your junk, so that when the dildo was sucked on you would feel the suction as well. I tried to Google around a bit for it, but I couldn't find it. Maybe someone else will know what I'm talking about.

Yes I know what you're talking about!

Its the mr man or something like that, but unfortunately they stopped making it. :/ I know, booo. Idk why, probably because when it first came out they had few customers. But I came across it and thought itd be a great FTM product, then I found out that they don't make them anymore.
I remember a woman designed it, and there were two designs. But they only had one size and color, and it was pretty big.
Also I heard reviews about it, that the suction wasn't as strong as one would expect. And you'd have to give oral by just focusing on the head. But the idea seems awesome!

[CodyJess]

Without opposition to having something inside for the sake of going harness free; I'd recommend the Feeldoe.
My only two functionality complaints about it, are that the bulb end is big if you're a small person; and that I have to put her butt up on a pillow to get a decent angle. Otherwise, the thing is fscking brilliant.

Otherwise, a strap on.I know I can get off sometimes just by being in the male role during intercourse. If you don't want her doing things in your private area, you just need to reassure her (constantly) that you really are getting pleasure out of it, and show a little bit of enthusiasm for sex. If the issue is about you being happy, then reminding her that you are should take care of that.

Also, consider talking to her. It might be a trust issue (her thinking you don't trust her), or something else that's not getting talked about.

[s1ncere]

OMG! that would be amazing!!

-I'd really like to hear some other thoughts on this... This is what I am having an issue with as well. My guy is a Top, and claims that he would be satisfied that way...  However, I have difficultly in accepting this, and I want to make him feel as good as he makes me feel. We're just kind of at an awkward place where I suggest something (blindfold?) and he says he doesn't think that would work.

Because we haven't actually had sex yet, all of this is still in the talking stage, but the time is rapidly approaching.

I am wondering if if this is a trust issue, wherein, given enough time he would be comfortable enough with me that he will allow me to manually or orally manipulate him (without any "attachments") OR if this is more of a dysmorphia issue where he will never be comfortable with me in that area.

We have really open communication, so it's not like I haven't asked him, to which he says that he just isn't sure... (fair enough) I am mostly interested in hearing various experiences of how you handle this.

In my past relationships I didn't let any of my g/f  touch me (same reason why most ftm don't want to be touched).
Yes I believe is both trust and dysphoria issue......
Well in my situation,in my past relationship I never let any of my g/f touch me (same reasons why most ftm don't want to be touched).
My g/f of 4 years is the only one to touch me.At first I felt awkward and stuff,but I learned to trust her and became comfortable with her.I still have times when I start thinking negatively...because I'm afraid that I don't satisfy her enough because I don't have a penis.But She remind me all the time that she still sees me as a man,regardless of my body parts.And that I satisfy her more than the past bio men she has been with.
Other than that I think we have a great sex life
                                       

[FlorDeLuna]

What a difference a few weeks makes. 
We were actually just talking about this again last night, and I said (on the advice of a guy here) that if he is never ready for that, I'm ok with it. and I AM. My goal is for the sex to be good for him. if it is without that.. so be it.
But he did say that the fact that he didn't dismiss the idea out of hand speaks volumes about how comfortable he is with me.  Yipee!!!

One thing men never seem to get is that for *most* women... if you have an orgasm and he is in the room he gets credit for it. Having a penis is great and all, but no penis can bend and react reflexively the same way that fingers can.  I don't know about all transguys (having only been with one haha) but MY transguy FAR and away outshines any cis-guy or cis-girl I've ever been with.  Annnnnnd I'm gonna stop now because I feel like I'm just braggin on him.