Not sure as this is the right place, but it seems a good fit...
I'm moving within the month, and will actually be moving at least some of my stuff up there this week. Thing is, while I planned to put in for a name change weeks ago, life seems to have had a different idea (needed to get other things figured out). Now it's becoming as pressing a matter as those "other things" and I'm not quite sure how to go about it.
I would like to put in for one so that I can e-mail the head of Human Resources, inform her of the fact and the situation (it's a transfer within the company, and I included transition in my "goals" on my application for the position), and see where we go from there. The dilemma is: do I file for a name change in my current county and get the ball rolling here, or wait until I'm up there this week and file for one in the county I'll be moving to?
I know the question of "passing" is to be considered, but I already pass pretty well, even in my current work environment. Co-workers even comment on how often I get called a "he" or am otherwise referred to as a male. I even once had a lady correct herself after saying "ma'am" and apologize and explain that she was just so used to saying "ma'am" all day; similarly, a regular corrected his wife when she said "her." I also had a woman correcting a lady she was with who was calling me a "her." There's quite a few regulars who for a while saw me as a young man, one even insisted after being "corrected." Actually, I think oftentimes my co-workers prevent me from "passing" by calling me or walking up and using my name...which sucks when there's a cute girl on the other side of the counter who seems to possibly be kind of into me. But anyways...all this rambling is to say that, likely, once I get a name change "passing" ought not to be a problem. It's often when my name is brought up that it becomes an issue: an issue that would not be if I start up there as Noah.
