When should i start?

[AdamT]

Right well, i  have notified my college about how i feel and what i want to do, ive told my councilor, most friends and i want to avoid family due to there being issues there.

I can go see my GP and things moving along or i have been advised to wait until im working and a little older. I know i may not be able to start anything until im 21 anyway but what if psychiatrists say im 'eligable' for HRT at the age of 18?

I dont know what to do because i cant tell my mum or step dad because of the step kids. My step dad gets the kids every tuesday and thursday and if they go home to their mother and tell her im going through this she will stop the kids from seeing their dad, i dont want to cause arguemnts and upset but i just want to be myself.

Please help and advise

Hannah xx

[K8]

This is something each of us has to decide for ourselves, depending on our situations and needs.  If you are still living at home and can't come out because of the situation there, it sounds like you have to wait until you leave home.

Since you have already told your counselor, that person may be able to help you decide what to do.  It would help you to be able to discuss this with someone face-to-face so that you can fill in the details and they can ask you questions.

Good luck, Hannah.

- Kate

[Janet_Girl]

Depending on your relationship with your Mom.  You might start with her, privately.  And then the two of you can figure out how to tell your step Dad. 

But I can't  see how you coming out has anything to do with his visitation.  But I have been wrong before.



Good Luck Hon
Hugs and Love
Janet

[Nicky]

I agree that it should have nothing to do with his visitation. But even if it does, I don't think it is your responsibility. Letting the actions of the mother of your step dads kids being a deciding factor in whether you transition does not sound right to me.

Whatever happens you are going to have to tell your family at some point, I would suggest that is the place to start. Start with those that matter most.

Maybe you could talk to your councilor about sorting out a 'plan of attack'.

My feeling is it would be easier to transition then work than transition while working. At least that way you don't have any wrong gendered work history. But it depends on timing, money, what you intend to do, whether you are still dependent etc..

[AdamT]

I know i 100% want to transition and i will get there eventualy
Money isnt an issue because i live in the UK and may be able to get it done through the NHS but i will not get hopes up just yet.

I have spoken to my mum before and have discused it on here before, my mum will not keep it confedential from her fiance because she feels like she would be betraying him by keeping a secret from him which i total understand.

If word of my transition got to step kids mum, then the 'bitch' of a woman would stop my mums fiance from seeing his kids because thats the kind of woman she is.

The staff that teach my course at college know about my thoughts of transitioning and the course leader has spoken to each teacher seperately, i have done the same because i thought it would be better if they heard it from me. I also have told my learning support helper, the college staff are amazing at supporting me and help me in class aswell as outside of class.

I havent told my GP yet but will do so in the new year because im going to have to if i want to make any progress towards my transition

Im thinking though, i could get support from my citys council and explain my situation to them, i may be able to get a small flat and although it wont be amazing, it will do for what i want and that is all that matters to me

I also have had a lot more confidence to tell people about myself, i have come to realize that i should not be afraid of what society thinks of me because i am still human. I understand that alot of other people with gender issues, become stressed because they think they have to behave how society expects them to behave, after speaking to a therapist i feel like i should behave in society how i feel and so if i want to go out shopping and try foundation or something, i will.


Anyway sorry for rambling on, thanks for your replys, thoughts and advise
*hugs*
Hannah Elizabeth xxx