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Coming out to my grandparents...sort of indirectly.

Started by Ryuu, November 24, 2009, 05:02:10 PM

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Ryuu

In about half an hour, I'll be on my way to the airport, to go see my grandparents. I'm not going to openly tell them, but I'm telling them that I'm now going by Aaron. And well, they'll probably notice the fact that I now have buzzed hair, and am binding and wearing men's clothes. And of course they'll get suspicious if I ever spell my name. (Otherwise they'll probably just think it's Erin) I'm taking it slowly since they still haven't seen me since last year, which was when I was just beginning to question and was *trying* to be a girl. Also my parents separated in February and they're still coming to terms with the fact that my mom's not coming to Thanksgiving this year. And I'm worried that they will think that that brought this on. (especially since they divorced because my mom's lesbian. I know it's not the same but they might not)
Like I said, I won't tell them  openly, but as my mom said, "Your grandma's intuitive. She'll know something's different."
I'll post when I can and tell how it goes! *nervous*
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Janet_Girl

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Between Names

Good luck man.  I actually only have one grandparent left, but I'm still not looking forward to telling her about it.   :O
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Ryuu

Well they haven't talked to me yet, but apparently they asked my dad the night we got there, about my new name. They haven't wanted to talk to me yet, and probably won't this visit. My grandma is apparently afraid that I'll have a more difficult life (which might be true, but that's not enough to stop me) but wasn't openly dissaproving.
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K8

As always, YMMV, but I got better results when I was direct and open rather than trying to do it indirectly.  I think people appreciated it.  But my grandparents have been dead many years, so what worked for me may not work for you. :-\

Good luck, Aaron, however you do it. :)

- Kate
Life is a pilgrimage.
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