Quote from: Alexie on November 29, 2009, 02:05:35 AM
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I don't on the other hand want to be seen to be dishonest, especially on this board where honesty is of paramount importance.
Honesty with others comes with being honest to yourself first. That said, transition isn't as much (imho) the physical changes in the body as much as transcending the boxes of gender assigned at birth in order to be true to yourself.
Quote from: Alexie on November 29, 2009, 02:05:35 AM
As I am in fact male at the moment, and just going through the unbelievably complexed soul searching as to whether I transition or not: do I say what sex I am or what I would like to be seen as in an ideal world?
The gender marker here is exactly what it means, what you identify as, not the gear in-between your crotch. Transition is a
choice of
options, medically, socially, and presentation wise. You can go as far as you need to, and only you alone can decide where, when, and how to proceed.
A therapist who deals with gender variant clients would be an option, and you'll probably be recommended to see one in this thread, but they can only work on what information you offer them, assuming it came from the heart, they also
can not tell you
who you are or
how to live.
As I said before about options, I'll say of consequences, not that they are good or bad per se, but what you do now will shape what happens next. Going down the gender rabbit hole with both eyes open will let you see the inner truth, whatever it may be.
That, is what being honest to yourself is like.
