Assuming that you are looking for relationship material, and not just hot casual sex - because that's a whole other set of rules, cause its a whole other set of girls - ...
The male is the predator, the female is the prey. That - if not the natural - is the social order of 'dating' in the modern West. (Remember that whole 'dating' deal is only sort of a century or so old, its a very modern deal). However, unlike nature anywhere else, its the prey that decides if, when, how and under what conditions they are to be 'caught' in.
That gives them pretty much total control of all the cards. The effort is going to be all yours, the choice, all hers.
And since its a lot of effort - there are no lazy overweight predators in nature - it only makes sense to extend the effort on the prey most likely to succumb and that you favor the most.
So first, figure out what you want, then narrow it down to those most likely to fit. This narrows it down to individual people, and people date other people, they don't date other groups of people. So forget the entire trans/cis deal and concentrate on those persons that are the most appealing. Because on an individual level its amazing how much relationships are open to negotiation. And people fall in love with other people, not with other groups of persons.
However, and this is critical in the initial selection process, other things are not open to any negotiation, and ought to be considered deal killers from the get go, because she is going to consider them that too. Kids are a huge factor that many women are not going to be open to negotiating, one way or the other. Women who want to have kids are never going to be talked out of it, the desire is deep, instinct level stuff, it will not change. They are not going to be open to anything that can not, or will not, deliver that.
Financial stuff is also hard to negotiate your way around. And that's not just golddigger stuff - true that plenty of women like that exist - but women in general (perhaps because its largely true) are much more aware that their financial status and stability will depend on who she partners with much more than it does for men. So the last part of the holy trinity "Are you married? Are you gay? Are you employed?" is of equal value to the first two questions. No woman wants to think that she will have to support some guy, and when that happens it tends to suck, and they avoid the possibility of ending up there. And in the long run, people who aspire to a specific standard of living are not going to be happy unless they obtain it.
And, then, do all the hard work. Pay attention to them. Cater to them - they expect it. They don't think its a form of oppression, they think of it as respect. Most women/girls expect that all the social formalities and graces (opening doors, carrying stuff like a pack mule, opening doors while carrying stuff like a pack mule, pulling the chair out, helping with the coat, etc) will be carried out. They don't think 'oh that's nice' they think "That's Right!'.
The process is weighted toward women being selective, so you have to give them time to work to that point. They tend not to see someone across a room and think "must have" then to actually try to get to know the person first. Silly, I know. Where guys will work out the shortcomings later, girls really want to know them upfront. You kinda have to perform for them for a bit. No other way to put it. You have to let her get to know you before you can try to talk her into falling for you.
Oh yeah, I just have to add this. Chicks can smell desperation from across the room. And they don't like it. Nope. Not one little bit. So do whatever you have to do not to reek of it. Every guy knows this.
But here is what I came here to say. I once watched a Barbra Walters special where she interviewed Ursula Andrews, Linda Evans and Bo Derick. All had been married to John Derick, in that order. All while they were in their 20s. That's one hell of a lifetime achievement award in women to be sure. And as Barbra interviewed the two exs - Ursula and Linda - both were still quite fond of him, no bitterness, no evil ex-hate which is so common. And Bo was - at time she was just about 'the hottest babe' on earth) married to him at the time and head over heals in love with him. So old Barbra asked the three of them (all were interviewed separately) the same question, one that I paid very close attention too - I was learning from the Master after all. She asked what it was about John that they all found so overwhelming appealing. And, as if by magic, all three said exactly the same thing. So, pay attention, this is it, from god's own lips as they say - they three of them answered: When you talk to John he makes you feel like you are the only woman on earth. That's that 'pay attention' deal, but it's paying attention to the direct and exact exclusion of every single person in the room with you, especially the other women. It makes them feel special, and that is a key determent.
And you make that connection, you demonstrate the ability to make them feel special, before you ask for the date, it really helps in getting an affirmative answer. And keep at it. And never, never - it goes to what they said about John Derick - check out other women (when you're with her).
