To eairly to clash or To late to save?

[Carolyn]

The new year is almost here and that means my birthday is almost here (1.17.88) Which means dinner with my parents. I have been out for about 2 years (2.21.08) I have shown my mother this site among MANY MANY others for info yet she has made very little effort, I have basically said to hell with my father. I have only one last mask to shatter and they are that mask. I am planning to clash with each solo. My father for all the physical and mental abuse while I was growing up. And my mother I'm calling her out on everything. SHE KNEW, She knew from the beginning, and she refused to see it, she is the one who caught me at every f****** turn, age 5 in my sister's dress, age 10 her bras under my bed, age 13-17 with her cloths hidden in my room or me in her cloths, age 15-17 on the computer after we were kicked off aol because I was in LGBT chat rooms asking questions about transation. She knew and she never asked me...I don't know if it's hate or sadness that fills me when I think about it. I need this...

[jesse]

carolyn will they kick you to the streets when you confront them (mine did) do you have a plan in case it goes down like that. I Didnt and it damn near got me killed my sister passed me food threw her bedroom window for the longest time. I remember being cold hungry and finally left for dead in a field what saved me.... i joined the military. what will save you? do you live at home if not good its a little easier. Do you have a stable job or as stable as anyone can have in this economy. if so good anouther step in your favor all im saying here is do not put yourself in a bad situation if your not ready to deal with it. No one can be completely ready but their are better times then others just something to think about before jumping off the diving board
jessica

[inoutallabout]

Openly seeking confrontation isn't going to help their opinions of you.  Even if they can't love you for you, at least love them for being them.  It's a lot to ask of a parent, and it's just making it even harder for them when you lash out.

Don't judge them until you're in a position to know where they're coming from.  Until then...  Move on.

[Carolyn]

I just clashed with my mother...
On everything, religion, regrate, life, everything...
Tears rolling down her cheek, my eyes have tears coming out, yet me being me not allowing them to roll down my cheek. Alot was said, and I feel better for it, I think she may feel a little better as well, we contacted a litte more I think. When I go on my vaction next month I'm going to clash with my father, I'm actally looking forward to that one. I'm going to say to myself: Emotions should be allowed to be expressed, you use logic and reason and put your emoitions on the back burner for what? So they can set you on fire!? Learn to use both, not just your rational outlook, listen to your emoitions every now and then.

And Jesse thanks for the advice and worry not I'm already moved out and have had a job for the past 2 years. Thanks again.