Sexuality

[kyle_lawrence]

My sexuality is at the top of a list "things I've given up labeling." Much easier that way. I've been with both men and women (mtf and ftm's included) and its never really mattered.  That being said however, I've found myself more attracted to masculine people lately. The cheer-leader super femme types really don't do it for me.

[Christo]

I've always liked girls but never identified as 'lesbian". I've always seen myself as a hetero dude that likes girls even B4 transition. all my girlfriends have been straight women    never been w/a dude. not my cup of tea. no way!

[DamagedChris]

I was the same...I insisted I was heterosexual throughout most of my teen years, saying the attraction I had toward girls was just "admiration" or some bull. Slowly I came around to the idea I had bisexual tendencies...though I'm finding that after being on T for a while now, I'm starting to heavily prefer women to men. Mostly because I find the person I want to date is much more likely to be found in a female than a male...and the passive guys I've seen that would fit that would borderline on "fruity".

[Teknoir]

Oh boy.... I've been asked this before and my usual answer is "confused!" 

I wouldn't stress about it too much - it's really quite common not to fit into the tiny little restrictive boxes.

I'll objectify both, but don't think I could ever be with a woman. As soon as they become anything more than pixels, I lose interest.

I do enjoy the dynamic that goes with women, but I think that's more how they make me feel about myself. I get to feel like more of a traditional macho-man for a while. Yes, I'm a sleeze  . I'm also not immune to their charms - I've driven some around, moved boxes, done stupid things to impress them, etc - so fair's fair!  It's all in good fun - I'd never lead a woman on, I have no intention of having a relationship with one.

Men on the other hand... heh . The right man, and I actually find them attractive after I've gotten to know them. Both the people I've fallen hard for have been male. I don't discriminate between trans and cis, I've had crushes on both. It's more about the man himself as a whole. The right man can get under my skin in a way that no woman ever can.

I could only ever be with someone as a man. I don't mind the fact that I am (for all intents and purposes) gay. The further I get in transition, the more comfortable I am with it. I just don't like the image of the drama filled, stereotyped gay "community" and I want no part of it. I'm just a regular guy that happens to like other guys.

I've never been a lesbian, or done any time in the lesbian community. It was just never a fit. Even confused by the above feelings towards women, I was always 100% sure I wasn't a lesbian (during those times I could have sworn I was a straight man... very odd it didn't tip me off to the fact I am trans).

My orientation hasn't changed. In the past I just ignored how I felt about women, and pretended to be a straight female to "get the guy" (which turned out to be a disaster the one and only time it worked... the dynamic was totally wrong). Transition has made me look at the way I see things, and now I'm comfortable enough in myself to accept what may be a little unusual.

I could be gay, I could be bi. It depends how you define the catagories. Don't worry about the labels - just like what you like and get on with it .

[GnomeKid]

for me I've always liked girls...  and always will.

[Between Names]

I'm the opposite of you then, GnomeKid.  I've always liked boys and now I know I always will.

I already did the whole "questioning my sexuality" thingy.  Looked at girls, checked them out, even watched some porn, and then kissed a girl...  And nope, not for me. 

And I guess I feel more secure now that I've figured that out.  I've always liked being boyish and a little femmy, so it works out and I feel comfortable with liking boys.  And god I wish I had a body like one of the guys I have a crush on.  x)

[Calistine]

I consider myself to be a straight guy. Even as a girl who had flings with girls I felt more like a guy. Lesbian didnt fit. I have been attracted to men too, but I cannot stomach the thought of being a girlfriend anymore. Its just so wrong.

[jmaxley]

Yeah, I like men too, but mostly in a gay way.  (And I'm more attracted to gay men than straight).  I definitely don't want to be the girlfriend.

[Between Names]

I definitely don't want to be the girlfriend.

God, same here.  I've had one very serious relationship, and I loved the guy, but it always bothered me to be treated like a fragile little flower. 

I couldn't stand all the boob worship either.  It drove me crazy that he would drool over the one thing about me that I hate more than anything else!

Gay FTM FTW! 

[Alessandro]

God, same here.  I've had one very serious relationship, and I loved the guy, but it always bothered me to be treated like a fragile little flower. 

I couldn't stand all the boob worship either.  It drove me crazy that he would drool over the one thing about me that I hate more than anything else!

Gay FTM FTW! 

Yes, exactly this.  I had a relationship with a lovely guy, but I was presenting female and he just saw me as a female with an odd kink for imitating a gay guy.  He was straight so it didn't end up working out.  I always wanted to hide my chest and always wanted anal... basically I am useless for straight men.  But I can't pass   

I have always been a gay guy, but my body likes to disagree   

[Between Names]

I can't pass either, Alessandro.  Sucks, doesn't it?  Too gay for a straight guy, too female for a gay guy.

...Which is why I'm avoiding relationships until I start T. 

[Alessandro]

I can't pass either, Alessandro.  Sucks, doesn't it?  Too gay for a straight guy, too female for a gay guy.

...Which is why I'm avoiding relationships until I start T. 

Yeah, that's exactly the problem we face.  But I know there are men out there who don't look for labels, some bisexuals and pansexual types.  There's hope, it's just pretty slim.

I too am going to stop subjecting myself to the torture of trying to find the right person until I'm better about my plans.  I still don't know if I want to start T (I know I want to, but I am terrified of the implications) but I don't think I'll ever have a relationship without it!  Its all just probability, by taking T we increase our chances, but not hugely.  Without T our chances are slimmer!

[Elijah3291]

I had always liked men, then my junior year of HS I thought I was attracted to women, I became really boyish, but then I realized that I liked men very much.  I then found out that I wanted to be a man (for lack of better words) so I figured I was just a gay guy.  I still feel like a gay guy, although SOMETIMES I a physically attracted to women, but sexually their woman areas do nothing for me.

[Kurzar]

Growing up from around 8-16 I had a wicked crush on my best friend who was female.  I never told her, but when she got a BF...the fur was flying. He and I got in constant fights over her attention.  She was pretty much the only friend I had so I think that is why I liked her so much. Now (Pre-T) I identify as totally gay. Both my mates are gay cismales. I think I've pretty much been gay most my life. Very few females turn my head and when they do they are goth and or butch >.>

When I told my doc about being TG he asked what my sexuality was and I told him gay.

[Walter]

I think I'm Bi-Demisexual. But lately I've been attracted to Females but I still have some attraction to Males

[DamagedChris]

Bi-demisexual?

[Walter]

A Demisexual is sort of a branch off of Asexuality. A Demisexual is someone who doesn't feel sexual attraction normally but will start to feel sexual attraction to the person they have a strong romantic connection with

[JakeDenver]

I have a girlfriend who I have been with for 8 months now. I think if we were not together or if we break up for good I will definately let my gayness come out. I am so attracted to men and other ftms. My friends ask why go threw the transition and then date guys. I guess they just dont understand. I will never identify as gay or heterosexual. I hate labels for the most part.

[mL]

I thought I was attracted to men, but what i recently realized is that im not actually attracted to them, but that is how i've always wanted to look, ie my hair, clothes, style.

EXACTLY. that was a major realization in my sexual identity.
I discovered that in middle school actually.  I was pretty confused back then. At first, I thought that I wanted to be a boy, then I started thinking that maybe I don't want to be one, I LIKE them.  But then I realized how I truly felt, which is to be a boy.
never knew anyone else that might feel this way and never found anyone that I'd expect to understand so far.. except maybe one, but I'm too nervous to tell.

[Alessandro]

My friends ask why go threw the transition and then date guys. I guess they just dont understand. I will never identify as gay or heterosexual. I hate labels for the most part.

Yeah, I get this and ask myself it sometimes  Thing is though there is a hell of a difference between being with a man as a man and being with a man as a woman.  It took me many failed straight relationships to come to this conclusion.  The dynamic is definately not the same, besides they need to get that transition isn't really about making yourself attractive to a certain group of people, its about being happy in your own skin.  If that happens to make you gay, well gay it is.  Its the 21st century, who cares!