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Is there anything that makes being a transmale, better then being a cis male?

Started by Elijah3291, December 30, 2009, 04:43:43 PM

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Ender

Quote from: Zelane on December 31, 2009, 01:12:36 PM
Sorry for this:

A nutcracker kick doesnt hurt you as much as it should.

A know its a touchy subject but if you dont learn to laugh at yourself. Then you lost the game.

Lol, good one.  I'm hardly happy about not having a functional pair, but this (points up) is a benefit that I have considered.
"Be it life or death, we crave only reality"  -Thoreau
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glendagladwitch

If I could interject something here, I think that growing up in the female role allows more freedom of gender expression during those years especially.  Maybe not.  But I think there are a lot of extrememly traumatizing "rights of passage" that are visited upon growing boys by older boys and adult males that damage anyone subjected to them, cis or otherwise.  So I think a FTM, in avoiding some of those experiences, can wind up more psychologically stable and emotionally well-grounded than the typical cis-male.  But maybe I'm overstating it.
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Ryuu

Quote from: SilverFang on December 31, 2009, 04:02:28 PM
True, and damn you made me lose the game.

Me too. Grr...
Back on topic... These have already been said, but we don't have sensitive genitals to be kicked. We may not have ever been "girly" or anything like that, but we were brought up closer to females, so those of us who are straight or just prefer female friends may understand them a bit better.
Oh, and those of us who are gay are ENCOURAGED by society to be gay! :O That is until we transition. Idk about anyone else but I've gotten some funny looks from therapists when they find out I identify as male, and have had boyfriends in the past.
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Silver

Quote from: glendagladwitch on December 31, 2009, 07:29:00 PM
If I could interject something here, I think that growing up in the female role allows more freedom of gender expression during those years especially.  Maybe not.  But I think there are a lot of extrememly traumatizing "rights of passage" that are visited upon growing boys by older boys and adult males that damage anyone subjected to them, cis or otherwise.  So I think a FTM, in avoiding some of those experiences, can wind up more psychologically stable and emotionally well-grounded than the typical cis-male.  But maybe I'm overstating it.

Probably the best response we've gotten here. The only drawback is that we're probably not seen as "as manly" as other men who've dealt with these things. Experiences generally help people mature.
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Ender

Quote from: glendagladwitch on December 31, 2009, 07:29:00 PM
If I could interject something here, I think that growing up in the female role allows more freedom of gender expression during those years especially.  Maybe not.  But I think there are a lot of extrememly traumatizing "rights of passage" that are visited upon growing boys by older boys and adult males that damage anyone subjected to them, cis or otherwise.  So I think a FTM, in avoiding some of those experiences, can wind up more psychologically stable and emotionally well-grounded than the typical cis-male.  But maybe I'm overstating it.

That is a possibility, but I was definitely put through the grinder for not conforming to feminine stereotypes.  It was mostly verbal disapproval from family members; my peer group tended to get more physical.  All the experience did was make me resentful of everything even remotely feminine (I think this goes back to what Tekla was trying to get at). 

I'm starting to let go of that resentment, now that I am being consistently read as male and no longer have 'feminine' expectations thrust upon me.
"Be it life or death, we crave only reality"  -Thoreau
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Chamillion

most girls tell me I'm better at getting them off than any of the guys they've been with are, which is probably because I can relate and know what feels good.  so that's an advantage

also most guys who were born guys probably aren't happy all the time just because they're dudes.  I find I'm happier than almost everyone around me because I'm so glad that I'm finally being seen as a guy and that my body is finally matching my mind.  seriously, sometimes I'll just think about how awesome it is that I can transition and how much happier I am now.  so that's good too
;D
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