Reactions

[FolkFanatic]

Okay, tell me the funniest reactions experienced when telling friends or family.

I just told my other close friend last night. I expected something strange (she's very open, but a bit of a perv) and i got it.

Friend: So, you really want to be a guy?
Me: More like it feels right to me....
Friend: I never seem to keep female friends, they're all GUYS! It's weird that one of my best female friends wants to be a guy!
Me: Well, is that a problem?
Friend: Nope, no problem. Kinda cool!
Me: Okay, cool.
Friend: Okay, hey, without sounding rude....?
Me: (thinking: uh-oh) Shoot.
Friend: But....
Me: (waiting)
Friend: When you have sex will it be with a strap-on?!?
Me: (jaw drops)

I spent a good portion of the evening dropping hints and slowly getting into it and this is what i got. "Will you have sex with a strap-on?" ((rolls eyes))

Any other funny reactions from friends? Family?

[Lachlann]

Hahahaha! That's pretty funny.

One of my friends thought 'trans' meant 'bisexual' but that's as far as weird reactions go.

[Banf]

"By the way, when you get a penis, you're f**king me with it first. Deal?"

*cough* ...

This is what I get for coming out to a friend after a few drinks. :D


Tonight I plan to (if I don't chicken out) come out to a close friend who, while he loves me, he currently believes that sex, gender and sexuality are pretty much the same thing. Arf! Expecting an interesting reaction here..

[VampyreAri]

Personally most of my friends so far have just been sort of calm and 'Oh, okay, cool.' But... the most interesting was probably my cousin. Her reaction was simply: "So... when you get a penis... Can I touch it? I really just wanna poke it. Please?"

[icontact]

Ahahaha. Wonderful.

he currently believes that sex, gender and sexuality are pretty much the same thing.

How does that even work?

[Jeatyn]

"By the way, when you get a penis, you're f**king me with it first. Deal?"

*cough* ...

haha I got this same reaction xD

My best friend responded with "when you get a penis, I will marry you"

[FolkFanatic]

What is it with people assuming we can just grow functioning dicks? I had to clear that up with BOTH of my friends ("yes there are VERY realistic prosthetics and some surgeries that can SORT OF give you one... but no there isn't a miracle pill to make one that works like a bio male penis.... unfortunately..." unless i'm wrong about that..?) and it sounds like that seems to be the most fascinating part to most people....



Ah well. So not looking forward to seeing what'll "pop up" (so to speak) when i talk to my parents.

"By the way, when you get a penis, you're f**king me with it first. Deal?"

*cough* ...

LMAO!

[Alessandro]

What is it with people assuming we can just grow functioning dicks?

Yeah, we wish!  That's just "the dream" 

I havent had many interesting reactions.  Most people just said it didn't matter to them or didn't respond at all.  I reckon some of my friends flat out don't believe me. 

[Jay]

Yeah no questions just about how they will make a penis thats all what people are worried about...  Nothing else....

Jay

[sneakersjay]

Gee, nobody wants to see mine when I get it!  Guess I need new friends!!


ROFL


Jay

[Ryuu]

Lol. One of my friends asked me if I wanted a strap-on for my birthday.
That was a while after I came out to him, though. (When I came out to him he was my boyfriend. He seems to be accepting it a little more now though)

[FolkFanatic]

Lol. One of my friends asked me if I wanted a strap-on for my birthday.

Ahh, i can see my friend asking me that come May. This opens a WHOLE new area for her to shop for me for next birthday (May) and christmas. She just loves giving "adult" gifts to people for laughs.... i end up putting most of her gifts to me in my lock-box......

I say bring it on lmao!

[Teknoir]

A friend of mine asked if, when I was post-op, if I could whip it out so he could see. The surgery seems to have people curious.

My Dad is a funny one. He wants to take me to Bangkok when I'm post-bottom-op for "the ladies... or ladyboys" (his terms, not mine) .

[kyle_lawrence]

I had been a part of the queer punk scene in Chicago for a while before I came out, so it was never a big deal all with my friends. 

I've mostly gotten the same "addadictomy" joke over and over again, mixed in with honest support.

[Al James]

only reaction i got from friends was "we know and were wondering how long it would take you to figure it out" so no funnies from me

[Cowboi]

This is one of those things where I know that I should have a story, but I have apparently forgotten it. I hate it when that happens.

I think the weirdest thing that ever happened to me when coming out was when I wanted to change my name. I used to go to a youth group for GLBT teens. Apparently every single person there thinks that since my name was Lindsay and Lindsay can be a guys name that it was good enough. They failed to see why I did not agree with them.

There was a great discussion between my old roommate and a guy we went to high school with, he kept asking her about her roommate Ethan. She told him she lived with a guy named Seth. His response was "No that trans guy." She once again said that yes, she knew who he was talking about, but my name was Seth. This apparently turned into a class debate (hence they were actually in debate class) about rather or not my roommate knew if my name was Ethan or Seth. The sad part is the debate teacher took part in the debate, and so did the entire class, despite half of them knowing me apparently none of them knew my name. I had been going by Seth for three years at that point and the debate teacher had me in two different classes and had known me for 5 years.

[FolkFanatic]

I think the weirdest thing that ever happened to me when coming out was when I wanted to change my name. I used to go to a youth group for GLBT teens. Apparently every single person there thinks that since my name was Lindsay and Lindsay can be a guys name that it was good enough. They failed to see why I did not agree with them.

There was a great discussion between my old roommate and a guy we went to high school with, he kept asking her about her roommate Ethan. She told him she lived with a guy named Seth. His response was "No that trans guy." She once again said that yes, she knew who he was talking about, but my name was Seth. This apparently turned into a class debate (hence they were actually in debate class) about rather or not my roommate knew if my name was Ethan or Seth. The sad part is the debate teacher took part in the debate, and so did the entire class, despite half of them knowing me apparently none of them knew my name. I had been going by Seth for three years at that point and the debate teacher had me in two different classes and had known me for 5 years.

Gott love debate classes! And teachers who can't remember names.... Had several of those before, thankfully it wasn't just me - they had to read each name from their little book and get a "here".... couldn't put faces to names, i guess!

My name could also carry over if i wanted it to - just spell it differently. Erin/Aaron.... but i think for my transition to be 100% effective i need to leave the "old me" (including my first name) behind and start new. So i'm going with Justin as a first name - may take Aaron as a middle name, may go with Aiden. Don't know yet - leaning towards Aiden, but i'm probably going to let my parents give some input on it when i finally tell them.

[Cowboi]

My name could also carry over if i wanted it to - just spell it differently. Erin/Aaron.... but i think for my transition to be 100% effective i need to leave the "old me" (including my first name) behind and start new. So i'm going with Justin as a first name - may take Aaron as a middle name, may go with Aiden. Don't know yet - leaning towards Aiden, but i'm probably going to let my parents give some input on it when i finally tell them.

Yes, it seems like there is a big push for people who have names that could go both ways to be told to keep their name. My fiancee's name was Tony and her mother still tells her she could have just changed it to Toni. She chose Bianca instead because it was actually the name her parents had picked in the event they had a little girl instead of a boy when she was born.

I had to explain to people over and over again that just because my name could be kept didn't make it a good idea. First off very few men in America have the name Lindsay, it is not considered a male name in this country. Also at the time I hadn't began HRT, which means that having a commonly female name would have completely messed up my ability to pass effectively.

Aiden is a cool name, I actually change my middle name to Aden (pronounced the same but spelled differently) and if I had not chosen Seth I would have gone with Aiden instead. My first name is actually Setheriane, pronounced like Seth ariane (although in no way intended to be tied to Nazis). Thank god that even though I'm of German descent and have blue eyes that I'm not blonde as well haha. I never realized the possible tie in until a few months ago when trying to explain to people how to pronounce it when I was online.

[Arch]

I came out to my brother, whom I hadn't seen or spoken to in twenty years, through Facebook. He "got" the trans thing but thought it was a little weird that I was gay. Whatevah.

I came out to an old childhood friend whom I had also found through Facebook. I didn't know her well after all those years, so I just told her I was trans, not gay. I got back a wonderfully supportive and rambling message that talked about my attraction to women. I friended her after that, so she had full access to my FB profile, where I'm pretty openly into men. I guess now she knows I'm gay.

Here's a funny. Years ago (fifteen?), pre-transition but after I first came out as transgender, I was at a small academic gender conference for TG and IS and all of that. I came out as trans to a total stranger, a curious cis gal who seemed to have just stumbled across the conference by accident. And she said that she was amazed--she would never have guessed that I "wasn't a biological woman." Needless to say, I was pretty pissed, but FTMs were largely invisible then.

[Jamie-o]

I must come from an incredibly repressed area.  Nobody except my mom has asked me a single question beyond, "Does it feel weird to go by a different name?"  However, when I first came out at work, the room went so silent you really could have heard a pin drop.