Love's new frontier
It's not monogamy. But it's not cheating or polygamy, either. It's called polyamory, and with hundreds practicing the lifestyle in and around Boston, is liberal Massachusetts ready to accept it?
By Sandra A. Miller
January 3, 2010
http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/magazine/articles/2010/01/03/loves_new_frontier/#Jay Sekora isn't actively looking for an additional relationship, but he admits to occasionally checking a dating site to see who's out there. Sekora's girlfriend, Mare, who does not want her last name used here for professional reasons, said she is not pursuing anyone, either, but is "open and welcoming to what might come along." In the three-plus years they have been together, a few other people have come along, like the woman whom Sekora, a 43-year-old systems administrator from Quincy, met online and dated briefly until she moved away. There was also a male-male couple that Mare and Sekora, who identifies as bisexual, dated for several months as a couple. Other than that, it has been the two of them. Well, sort of.
Through the lens of monogamy, this love connection may appear distorted, but that's not how Sekora and Mare, who is 45, describe their lifestyle. Adherents call it responsible non-monogamy or polyamory, and the nontraditional practice is creeping out of the closet, making gay marriage feel somewhat last decade here in Massachusetts.
