Hello from Annette in Aylesbury.

[Annette Elmore]

Hi from Annette in Aylesbury.

I'm an out an about transvestite – 55 – who has only been dressing since May/June 2008.

Before that I was a carer for my late wife for more years than I care to remember – she died in Feb 2008.

I had been intrigued by transvestites and transvestism for some time by then – I remember seeing a television programme about Faye Presto the transexual magician which really sparked my interest in the subject.

I did attempt to dress up once after that (disastrously) and would often try lipstick and various other things.

Not much really happened after that until the advent of the internet when in the course of surfing for pornography I inevitably happened upon some transvestite porn.

I became fairly obsessed with transvestites then but always from a distance until one day I decided to contact a girl called Caroline who I'd been ogling online for a while – from her blog she seemed very approachable so we struck up an online relationship – she was going through a messy divorce and I was going through my wife's deteriorating health so we gave each other quite a bit of emotional support.

After a while Caroline asked me whether I had ever considered dressing myself – this was before my wife died and I really had enough on my mind already.

After my wife died I had 1001 things to sort out – after a month or so my sister asked whether Carolyn (my wife) had left any handbags she could have – I said I would sort them out.....

Going through the handbags I came across a brand new one – a very small black one with a chain link shoulder strap – and I suddenly thought – I'll keep that one I like it!

A few days later it really dawned on me – I was free to do whatever I liked.

I bought some makeup, undies and clothes etc (very nervously to start with).

And first dressed fully at the end of May/beginning of June.

In early June I also met my first transvestites – on Caroline's say so I visited Sweet Wednesdays and had a whale of a time – but most of the girls there guessed I was not your normal admirer so I was spurned on to visit en-femme for my next visit.

So on the 2nd July 2008 I attended Sweet Wednesdays as Annette – I arrived in drab and changed there – I consider this date as Annette's real birthday – I was treated very well and had a great time – I found the other girls so supportive.

I was then a regular at Sweet Wednesdays for quite a while learning a lot (sexually) and quite a bit (about dressing).

Then one evening I arrived in drab but when it came time to leave I decided to leave the makeup and wig on and travel home like that – with a pair of jeans instead of my somewhat non-existent mini-skirt!
After doing that a few times I decided it was a small step to travelling up dressed so I did – probably for the first time in late Sept or early Oct....

In early Dec a ->-bleeped-<- came in the shop (I work in Sainsburys) and I said hello to her (not seen her since) and this was 'clocked' by a few people in the shop so I decided to come out.

As of now the only time I am remotely man is when I'm at work (if you ignore the jewellery and eyeshadow). And when I'm around the house.

I no longer own any man clothes.

I have been to work dressed 3 times – as a St Trinians girl on Red Nose Day – as a serving wench on Sainsbury's 140th birthday – and as Morticia Addams at Halloween.

Most of the times I go out I go out en-femme – I also have been mistaken for a woman when not wearing wig or makeup.

I am a very confident girl (greatly at odds with my male persona) and every one I knows can tell how much happier I am.

I attended my shop's xmas dinner and party as Annette.

I suspect my next step will be changing my name to Annette Kirsty Denise Elmore – which I'm sure I will do sometime in 2010.

The only reason I am not 24/7 is that I start work at 6am 6 days a week and the logistics of looking convincing that early in the morning are not on my side.....

So thats me!

I'm so looking forward to hearing from you and getting involved in the forum.

Love

Annette (Nettie) xxx

[Janet_Girl]

Hi Annette,

Welcome to our little family. Over 3900 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

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Janet

[Chrissty]

Hi Annette,

A Warm Welcome on a Frosty day from Hampshire!

While we all come here with a common interest, it never ceases to amaze me how many different paths there are.....I hope you find what you seek..

Thank you for your detailed intro, and I think I saw that excellent programme about Faye too. Categories are not important as staying true to our hearts is what matters... but you may want to check out how international categories vary from the UK ones you are familiar with... (TV, TG, and CD seem to get a little confused)..

...and finally...once you have read the "rules etc" from Janet, you will realise a number of facilities will become available to you once you have made over 15 posts on this site..



Chrissty

[Annette Elmore]

Hi Chrissty - yes these defintions do seem to be rather variable - I'm happy with the phrase transvestite - crossdresser here in the UK seems to be used to define the 'occassional' dresser (one step on from the dreaded HPW) rather than people like ourselves whilst in the US the term transvestite seems to be taboo!

When I'm about on the transgender scene I prefer the term tgirl - and I am introducing my workmates to the word slowly ......

Nettie xx
Post Merge: January 09, 2010, 02:04:17 AM
Also of course on the other sites I go to regularly many girls call themselves 'TS' when in my mind they are no such thing.

Some people said I could never be a TS because I prefer the company of women/tgirls to men - but I don't see the problem with being a lesbian TS!

On the other hand one of the (few) post-op TS's I knew well said to me that only those who had been clinically diagnosed as being transexual should use the term - what's the feelings on this site about this ?

Nettie xx

[Chrissty]

.....Also of course on the other sites I go to regularly many girls call themselves 'TS' when in my mind they are no such thing.

Some people said I could never be a TS because I prefer the company of women/tgirls to men - but I don't see the problem with being a lesbian TS!

On the other hand one of the (few) post-op TS's I knew well said to me that only those who had been clinically diagnosed as being transexual should use the term - what's the feelings on this site about this ?

Nettie xx

Hi Nettie, really it's more important to have something you feel comfortable with, so much of "who" we are, is not about "where" we are at the moment, but the goal our heart is set on achieving. 

You will find that there can be a lot of discussion about how we categorise ourselves, but for simplicity if you want to present female through clothing/make-up alone, then maybe CD is the best term; however if you feel an irresistible need to change your body to match your soul, then TS would better describe you. TV internationally tends to be seen as having a sexual motivation linked to dressing, and hence may not describe your feelings correctly.

With regard to clinical diagnosis, you will find that most of us here have long ago realised that the clinical diagnosis of a "mental" condition is just to keep the UK funding quacks happy.....only your heart knows what gender you truly are, and any good counsellor will help you find your own path ...

Some here have been lucky enough to recognise and deal with natures "little" trick at an early age, others of us only realise the cause of our sadness and "feeling out of place" in later life... and then have the added complication of dependants and many years of "baggage" to deal with.....

In terms of being TS and lesbian...so what?  I think you will find most of us here have long ago realised that while we have one gender, our sexual orientation is not only a separate matter, but can change with time...

Seriously Nettie, please take a good look around this site (not forgetting the Wiki), there are some wonderful girls, and some great guys who have a wealth of experience and knowledge.     I think a lot of what you are hearing locally is more than a little out of date, and is perpetuated by the dinosaur of a health service we have to live with in the UK..

*Hugs*

Chrissty

[Annette Elmore]

Despite my problems about defining what I am now I am totally happy with who I am and thats really all thats important.

I really prefer the term tgirl - as it is a good blanket umbrella term - and is less 'medical' than the others - its a shame the term is not in wider use outside of our scene. Even though in age terms I'm a long way from being a girl!

One thing I'm not is a ->-bleeped-<- or ladyboy!

Nettie xx

[gennee]

Hi Annette and welcome. You sound so happy and content. I'm very happy for you.

Gennee

[V M]

Hi Annette

Welcome to Susan's