What am I?

[Valery]

hello again , well what am I?
I was born with male wewe I think.
befor my mother died she told me i was born with both.
True or not I dont know.
there is no recored.  medicaly i have been looked at
i am "normal" other then a scar under my balls.
I feel like a women, I have the body type of female,
my face looks like a man.
i was rased a male.
i have allways worn female jeans and shirts.
I am not Sexuall all thoe i have been with men and women, in the past.
I am so confuesed. after reading all the tearms here i am even more confused.
i have started female herbal hormone treatments myself.
my breast are gitting bigger, i am more happy.
I want to have SRS but i also feel that i am a women allready,
Just not in the eyes of everyone else.

[madison]

Hello Valery,

My name is Madison, and I just noticed that this is only your second post, and I wanted to say hello and welcome you here.

Reading your post, I would say you are brave, beautiful, and seeking hope, understanding, and answers.

Everyone here will listen, talk, and try to help. The future is bright with infinite potential. While labels can help some to understand, for others they only complicate; never let them confuse. You are, and that is amazing. Welcome.

Madison

[Valery]

thank you  its nice to meet you too.   well yes i am me but when i am asked like today at the mall a women in hot topic asked me what catagory i fit in, in th TG world. what should i say ?

[cindianna_jones]

Tell her the truth.  That you are in fact looking to find those answers.  Don't label yourself needlessly.  Chill.  Enjoy life.

Chin up...
Cindi

[Mia and Marq]

Concerning SRS, ask yourself if you're comfortable with your body currently. If the answer is yes, SRS might not be the right thing for you. Yes its tempting sometimes to want to conform to what other people expect of you, its important to stand firm if you're already comfortable with your body. It is true you don't need to look like a woman to be one, don't do anything you can't live with just to appease others.

Sometimes its overlooked the balance a person can have when it comes to gender. Some people feel male, some people feel female, some feel like neither and some feel like a combination. Ask yourself a couple questions and that will get you going in the right direction on self discovery. Then you can assess what you want to do.

1. What sex were you born as?
2. What gender(s) do you relate best with?
3. What gender(s) do you feel like inside?
4. What would you like to look like?

Some of these questions seem redundant but if you address each one as specific to the wording as possible it might provide some insight into developing an image of your gender views.

We're all here to help, listen and talk to you. Don't forget that.

-Us

[Valery]

well  i am wiccan and i do not beleve in harming myself but if i had the nerve i would cut it off myself , (meaning) i hate it that much.  i know that i am a women  i know that i want to have the female parts ,  i have not accomplished much in life and i know it is becouse  i am not happy with myself,  just the same both my mother and father were disabled and were not soicaly accapictable in todays world.  i am happy with the shape and contors of my body other then my breast (witch are growing now) my hair (witch i want off)  and my 3rd leg (thats in the way). like i said  i know what i want and know how to git there however when talking to someone and i am asked what type of TG am i ? what should i say?
what i guss, i am really asking is.... how do i fit into the Typical Sterotype of TG? what lable do i classafiy myself as?,  so that other can say "oh ok".  if i am not transsexually becouse, i dont feel that I have anything to do with sex   i think i wound file myself as transgender however  trasgender is to be born with both genders and since i dont know if i was or not.  Why is a "lable" so inprotant to me becouse my mother and father were filed as "dissabled" no name they were just dissabled pepole. i am not just....(whatever) , i want to fall into some catagory to fill the emptynees that pepole have place my parents in. i want to belong to some group to be able to say that i am "************"  and hold my head up high. As i said,  once i have a lable i can and will walk with my head alittle hight as it sits right now,  i am alone, i dont fall in anywhere, that hurts more then anything.
Posted on: November 08, 2006, 05:09:52 AMyes i understand that most do not want to sucribe to a role or group or catagory but unlike other i do, i want to find myself and for me that is to know where i fit in what group or role.
i dont cair about others hating me for what i am at least i will know what i am.

or in a sence what other would call me.  that is a verry inprotant thing to me  i would be happy knowing what i am example whn i die  on my grave stone i want it to say "lived life to its fullest a true TRANS(?)" you see so other can say "ok Kool Look at her " yes even when i die i want to be remember as a "TRANS?" WOMEN

[Melissa]

I think by the sounds of your post, you should do some research on being intersex.

Melissa

[beth]

            You address yourself as female and you want to remove the male parts you were born with so my thought is you are transsexual. You may also be intersexed. Don't think the two words "transsexual and intersexed) have anything to do with sex. They involve being born with the wrong body (transsexual) and being born with a body that is part male and part female (intersexed).  The fact that you wish to change your body makes you transsexual. Do not ever harm the male parts you have as the skin they are composed of is used to reconstruct the correct female parts during an operation. I hope you find and understand yourself and live a wonderful life.



beth

[Valery]

yes thank you  i am still at a little confused  the word SEX or Sexed  if i understood everthing i have read so far  the term Gender is for the Male or Female parts born with and sex is for something you do right ?

[Melissa]

No, your sex is physical (transsexual = transitioning to a different physical sex, intersex = between physical sexes) and gender is mental.  A common say I have heard is sex is between the legs and gender is between the ears.

Sexual Intercourse is something you do.

Melissa