A specific type of woman?

[spacial]

I don't think I'll win any beauty contests, but I don't think I'm a total dog either

I just want to be all the woman I can be.....But I def. need to live near the ocean

Which brings up another question.....East Coast or West Coast? 

I can only go by your avatar picture, but your look really striking and interesting to me.

First time I saw it I thought, Wow, she looks a whole lot of fun.

Though I'm pretty boring myself and would probably get quite tired before you.

[Northern Jane]

I am not a true optimist though... looking at this cover of 'Victoria's Secret' (early spring 2010 edition), I can't help but feel the smallest stab into my bubble of hopes, knowing I will never look exactly that alluring/seductive, after all is said and done.

Whether a model or an actress don't forget that only 1 in maybe 30,000 women look that good. The rest of us have to settle for something more realistic.

[justmeinoz]

I don't care any more, even if I do transition, and am not in fact solely androgyne-I look more female than some of the women around this city, even with a 3 day growth of beard, and with my head shaved!

[paulault55]

I have always been a woman inside, i am just doing a little remodeling to make the outside match the inside, when i started transition i could care less if i passed or not, that was not the major concern, i consider it a bonus that i do pass, i am more of a tom boy more than a girly girl.

Paula

[lisaolsson]

I've noticed a bit on these forums that there are some people who transitioned with a very specific type of a woman as a goal.
In some cases, these people are disappointed when they find their goals unattainable.
Often this seems to be based on premature judgment of the results by themselves.

I did have this vision of the woman I wanted to be, based on a close friend of me.

It didn't take me long to realize that it would be impossible for be to become this short, petite, blonde and sexy woman that I dreamed of. But on the other hand, I am probably more satisfied as I am now. Slightly tall, not at all petite, brunette and good looking woman with a much better taste in clothes.

[rejennyrated]

It was a long time ago but I don't really recall having any particular role model other than perhaps my mother, who unsurprisingly, I do look very much like. I think I was just one of those who wanted to be myself, and didn't care as long as that self was a reasonable approximation of female.

[K8]

I just figured I'd be happier being an ugly woman than any kind of (pretend) man.  I thought I'd never pass, but for some reason I do.  I had no particular image of what I would look like or be like other than happier.

Just today I saw my secondary therapist (for my second letter), a woman I've known socially for six years.  She said I seem to have the same personality I always did, just as a woman.  As a psychologist, she seemed to think that was a good thing - that I wasn't trying to layer on some perceived notion of who I should be.

It turns out I make a sort of mannish woman but undeniably a woman.  I'm delighted. 

(And Emma Peel was one of my ideals!  That face.  That body.  That accent.  That intelligence.  That bravery.  How could you not love her?)

- Kate

[Kay Henderson]

I thought I'd never pass, but for some reason I do.

That resonates with me. 

I was stunned to find that I have no problem passing.  I could point out fifty reasons why I should not, and yet...

[spacial]

I thought I'd never pass, but for some reason I do.

That resonates with me. 

I was stunned to find that I have no problem passing.  I could point out fifty reasons why I should not, and yet...

That kinda gives us all hope really.

Thanks for sharing it. Both of you.

[lilacwoman]

I was stunned to find that I have no problem passing.  I could point out fifty reasons why I should not, and yet...

same here...my first time out properly dressed was to go see the best known psychiatrist...had to go two short and one long train ride each way and pass thousands of folk along the way and no trouble at all until walking out of the shrink's office two girls doubletaked and came out with 'thats a bloke'.

[Alexis R]

The "specific type of woman" thing hurt me for a long time. I had too much of a rational mind and I knew the limits of HRT and surgery.

But at some point in therapy I finally realized that I would rather be an unattractive woman than an attractive man. That seemed to get me past my mental barrier. And then I just let the chips fall where they may.

Word. I'm to this point, as well. I don't really care what I look like, so long as I am not burdened by "that."

Allison

[Alyssa M.]

I have a very specific type of woman in mind. Something between this and this.

So ... yeah. Good looks would be nice, but that's not really the point.

[Cyndigurl45]

I want clarification on these specific types, we seem to be thinking of actual people more than types like the mentioned soccer mum. *shrugs* I don't know exactly what you mean without more examples.

It's difficult to explain the soccer mom (mum) look, usually a casual simple look in age appropriate clothes with light makeup and a trendy hair style I guess.....

[Genevieve Swann]

 ::)I have never actually attempted to mold myself into any specific type of woman. I think being mature and feminine is sufficient. I think I shall grow old and become a grouchy old  spinster.
Post Merge: January 28, 2010, 07:00:10 PM
ativan, dear.  When using chalk pastels use a art gum eraser and all errors dissappear. Also "art" is relative to what we like to see or percieve.

[azSam]

I want to be passable so bad that it's almost agonizing because I think about it a lot. I tend to be very self conscious about it. Though I am still very early in my transition, and am only part time, so I need to take it easy and stop being so anxious.

My friends tell me that it shouldn't take much to make me passable, and that the transition should do a lot, and makeup even now should do the trick, but blah, it's scary. I only go out at night when it's a little harder to see me clearly.

[Muffin]

I want to be passable so bad that it's almost agonizing because I think about it a lot. I tend to be very self conscious about it. Though I am still very early in my transition, and am only part time, so I need to take it easy and stop being so anxious.

My friends tell me that it shouldn't take much to make me passable, and that the transition should do a lot, and makeup even now should do the trick, but blah, it's scary. I only go out at night when it's a little harder to see me clearly.

same thing happened to me, but my way of dealing with it was by being more androgynous in my appearance to begin with. Making people question whether I was female instead of saying "is that a guy dressed as a woman? what the?".
I see diving in the deep end as getting ahead of one's self, unless you are passable without hormones then it's a different story.

I look back to my CDing days and think "how in the hell did I manage to delude myself so well... that's just a heinous crime against society!", *writes personal apologies to everyone in my city*.

But anyway I Think it's a very realistic way to approach transition, and a very safe way. ^_^
I do wish I started IPL earlier though, like most of us though I'm sure!!! lol nothing worse than going out looking perfect except for a bit of questionable shadow action :-/

[K8]

Sam,
I was sure I would never pass but got to the point where I didn't care.  Attitude is important, because if you are anxious and driving yourself crazy worrying about whether you pass or not, you won't.

I would go out very early in the morning sometimes but I never went out at night unless I was with others.  There are a lot of creepy people who come out from under their rocks at night.  Plus, a number of them have some alcohol or other substance in their system by then.

When I went full-time, I had a woman's haircut, a little makeup, and fake breasts.  I wore women's jeans and top – nothing too girly.  I carried a workaday purse and wore earrings and a small pendant.  I probably looked like I had the day before in man-monde but with the breasts.  As everyone, including me, got used to me walking around that way I became more openly female.

The hard thing about going from the closet to the street is that there is a lot to learn.  If you can ease your way into it somehow, you can learn as you go.

And friends are a wonderful resource.

Good luck, Sam.

- Kate

[pamshaw]

I certainly would like to be a pretty woman but I will be happy as any kind of woman. Of course I am a woman inside so I assume we are talking externally.

Pam

[Jasmine.m]

This is such a thought provoking question... Thanks so much for asking it!

I guess I've never pictured myself as specific type, physically, of any one particular woman, like 'looking' like someone famous or something (except, of course, for Vida Boheme... j/k!  ). I imagine myself more as the type of personality I want portray. Like what I would present myself as, my mannerisms, my demeanor, my attire... That sort of thing.

[Hannah]

I've noticed a bit on these forums that there are some people who transitioned with a very specific type of a woman as a goal

Personally I hope to be the girl that people are a little afraid of, not because of my looks but because they sense I can see through them. Professionally I want to be the sort of person who can see through them, too. I want people to be comfortable around me, but not in the sense that they can walk on me, rather in the company of a respected equal.

Romantically when my husband is talking with the guys and they call me an ice queen, I want him to say "oh hell no, you just have to get to know her".

Appearance is really the only thing standing in the way of these goals, I pretty much already described my personality  I'll happily take a plain appearance, just as long as its deviance from the norm isn't always the first thing people notice about me unless of course they are noticing fabulous hair or magnificent breasts, then I can live with it.