telling people that I'm a guy, is a lie, in my moms opinion..

[tekla]

OK, want a job?  Requirements for police and firemen are different based on sex.  As they are for almost all manual based activities.  If you are going to be a 'male' in that sense, you ought to be able to perform as one.  Requirements for stagehands, girls must be able to pick up and carry 50lbs, guys, 75lbs.  Half again as much, big difference.

[insanitylives]

^^I honestly think that's unfair. Why? Because if a woman doesn't have to be as strong, she probably won't be, and therefore can't protect who she's supposed to be, or herself.
If you're a female firefighter, I'm sorry, but you better be strong enough to carry someone out of a building, or you're not doing your job.

May be sexist

[tekla]

Actually you have to be a pretty buff girl to pick up and carry even 50.  And there are a lot of police officers and firemen who would agree with you.  Females in a lot of departments have a hard time getting partners.

[Silver]

May be sexist

Nah, well equal for the sexes. Not sexist at all, I think.

I don't deny gender differences. But in situations where physical ability isn't required, and really sex doesn't make a difference people still make a big deal of it.

[tekla]

Are you saying that cis men who cannot pick up and carry 75 lbs are not male?

Nope, but I'm saying they ain't working on a union stage.  Nor are they going to be firemen, or cops - which have very similar requirements.  I'm just sayin that in those situations you are going to have to meet the higher requirements.  Hell, we have one good old girl who loads trucks, and we don't even trust most of the other guys to get in there with us, its just too dangerous to work with people who have to strain to do it, and its no sweat for her.  I'm just saying that there are a lot of physical requirements for an awful lot of jobs and they are different for men and women.

[tekla]

No, but the question had to do with what her His parents were worried about, and that might well be part of it, and in many ways it is hard, it's just not as hard as going on the way it is for some people.  But like many have said, if there is another way, any other way, think hard about taking it.





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[tekla]

Yeah, even I can make mistakes, just about every day as matter of fact.  So, I'm sorry.  'fess up when you mess up. 

[Alyssa M.]

Wait -- weren't we talking about facebook? How on earth does the OP's situation have any remote bearing whatsoever on labor union regulations, beyond the fact that both exist on the same planet?

[Alessandro]

Tekla you've done it again.  I think you have a bit of an addiction to being controversial.  Tbh the least you can do is edit your post so that the pronoun is right for Elijah.

Then we can just get back on topic. 

[insanitylives]

Actually you have to be a pretty buff girl to pick up and carry even 50.

You don't know my friends then...