Do people beg you not to transition?

[Ender]

and he says that I shouldnt transition untill I have had vaginal sex.. because it will "change my mind" which pisses me off! 

This is the comment that I got the most from people.  My own mother even offered to take me to a bar to meet some random guy and get laid.  They always seemed so *sure* that this would fix everything; it seemed to me that they were missing a rather large point...  it pissed me off to no end then.  Now I'm more inclined to shrug my shoulders and chalk it up as 'yet another thing that people probably won't understand unless they've lived it.'

[sneakersjay]

This is the comment that I got the most from people.  My own mother even offered to take me to a bar to meet some random guy and get laid.  They always seemed so *sure* that this would fix everything; it seemed to me that they were missing a rather large point...  it pissed me off to no end then.  Now I'm more inclined to shrug my shoulders and chalk it up as 'yet another thing that people probably won't understand unless they've lived it.'

WOW.

I was 29 before I ever had vaginal sex, and it did nothing for me.  Oh I did figure out how to make it work and all, and I figured it was better than nothing.  But, obviously, it did nothing to make me F at all, and in some ways reinforced my dysphoria.


Jay

[Autumn]

and he says that I shouldnt transition untill I have had vaginal sex.. because it will "change my mind" which pisses me off!

Haha, isn't that the classic line? All girls need is a good dickin' and they'll stop that crazy lesbian, feminism, equal rights, wantin' a penis thing...

My mother has been a lot more supportive in the last 6 months than she was in the last few years.

It used to be that she'd keep telling me to "live life in the middle, like you are now." I would point out things like "Mom, it's really frustrating and *not safe* to not know if this guy hitting on me is gay or straight..." and she would always reply "It doesn't matter what other people think, just be yourself!"

I don't know how that whole bit was lost on her...

[colormyworld]

Well not many people actually know as of yet, my family doesn't even know yet, yes, I'm a chicken! ><

But of the people that do know, I've only gotten one really bad reaction, from someone that was a courtin' me. Being the nice guy that I am, I told him upfront, he seemed cool with it at first, when he thought that "transgender" and "tomboy" were the same thing... then once he actually figured out everything that it entailed, he had a major freak out, told me I'd always look like a girl no matter what, so I shouldn't bother, said that he wouldn't date me unless I stayed a girl (uhm.. I kind of don't see that as a threat.. I'm better off WITHOUT him ANYWAY, thankyaverymuch!), and he told me I was too pretty to be a guy, I'd never be accepted as a guy, I'd never be a 'real' guy, I'd be turning myself into a butchered woman, etc, etc. Needless to say we don't talk anymore!

On the other hand though, I do have a few friends that can't wait until I can get on testosterone because "my voice is way too high and hurts their ears when I get hyper" LOL Gotta love 'em!