Quote from: Jhenry on February 04, 2010, 02:08:34 AM
In my case its pretty obviouse that I do have a gender issue in that my sexual fantasies I am always a woman. It just the descission that im crrentlly considering in myself as to whether I should simplly live as a transvestite or go into transition. I will always have a femal'es mind, as I always have. But since my transsexuality seems to be stuck inside my sexuality I might be better off not having to deal with the hardships that follow a transition.ing
Yes and sadly you are probably the only one who can tell, although I think it may perhaps be risky to base ones decision on gender in sexual fantasies. There should, I think, ideally be a little more to it than that.
My own possition was rather unusual in that even as far back as the 1960's I had grown up from childhood largely as a female with my families assistance. So at quite a deep level I just believed that I WAS female. It was only the mirror and my physical form which begged to differ.
And of course I went on to have SRS whilst still relatively young. Personally it never crossed my mind for even a fraction of a second that I would live as a transvestite, because strangely enough the clothes really weren't that important to me. Nor indeed was I that bothered about what other people thought of me.
Yes I wanted to be seen as a woman, but it didn't really matter to me whether I was seen as ugly, butch, feminine, pretty, whatever...
All that mattered was the knowlege that I was permanently and irrevoccably physically female (or as medically close to that state as I could get).
The fact that we can not, as yet, become fertile in our new sex is merely a limitation which I must live with and as such I don't really regard myself as being much different to a woman who has had to undergo a hysterectomy.
As far as hardships go post transition, for me there simply weren't any at all! I've never had even a tiny problem. But I know that that probably marks me out as in a small and hideously lucky proportion of people.
However listening to many others on here it is clear that in most places these days things are a lot easier than they were. Most people seem to eventually find a niche and acceptance. Most find that their families an friends do eventually come around. I think the UK is also now one of the most accepting places.
So whilst I wouldn't say that the road is an easy one, I think it is very easy, when you set out, to overestimate the difficulty involved. Fact is, most of us survive it, and the vast majority are happy with the end result.
Anyway - good luck in your deliberations. I hope your find your answer.
