So I came out of the closet to my girlfriends daughter....now what???

[Melissa M]

I don't know, maybe it is just me.  I came out to my girlfriend a long time ago, and she told me that she wants a male, and not a female.  That is fine.  I accepted that.  So last night, I came out to her daughter.  The daughter is 22 years old, and was exposed to many different cultures, lifestyles and I just opened myself up to her.  She seemed okay with it, however, I am scared, and I probably won't have a home to live in when she tells her mom.  Taking a deep breath and praying... thanks for any support.

[spacial]

Keep us posted about how things go Melissa.

Thinking about you.   

[Janet_Girl]

I take it that the Mom does not agree or will be supportive.  But hang in there, maybe it would be so bad and your daughter won't tell.

Hugs,
Janet

[Melissa M]

Well, I am sad to say that after doing this, daughter went straight to mom and told her everything that I have said.  Then, she started asking mom what transsexualism is.  <shakes head sadly>  Its like the blind leading the blind.  This is how mis-information takes place.  Instead of asking the person that is going through it, they ask someone that doesn't have a clue on what it is...or, how it can be treated. 

Is a sad, and now very lonely day for me...

[juliekins]

Why are you still trying to maintain a relationship with another adult who can't deal with such an important aspect of your life? Were you seeking acceptance and validation from her daughter instead? If so, maybe the trans issue is still more active in your life than you thought. True?

[Melissa M]

I won't be living here for very much longer.  If I can not get the support here, and only feel alienated, it is time for me to move, and to find a place that is more supportive of my needs/wants.

Trans issues are huge in my life right now, and I need to get them addressed as soon as possible, but being here is only making me feel more depressed.  I have to leave here and strike it out on my own.  Head back to a place where I have friends and relatives that actually support me in this.

[spacial]

By the sound of it Melissa, you need to do that quite soon.

I'm really sorry about how things have worked out for you. It's clear you have made so much effort but have been rebuffed by selfish ignorance.

I hope you can establish a workable plan to start the process of getting out of there soon.