Agreed K8.
But I found that happens whatever the problem.
I know, when I first met her, I wasn't looking for any relationships. But this one was so very different.
I thought about leaving. I imagined how I would feel and knew it would punch me in the teeth. But when I thought about how it would make her feel, that was intolerable.
So, reader, I married her.
I had a number of serious plans, some of which had to be put on hold for many years, others which had to be dropped.
I really think that is the big draw back of being insanely in love with someone. You share everything, including pain.
And someone once said love is wonderful!!!!
(Actually, it is. It's so good that these problems are insignificant by comparison).
What I'm trying to say is that, with mutual experience comes mutual support.
My wife can never resolve her issues. She comes from Africa where such things are just not done.
There is a lot of misunderstanding about the culture in Africa, especially some parts. But the reality is, their culture is just diferent and they approach things very differently.
So, we have approached our situation by developing our relationship the way we feel. It is by most measures, unconventional.
This isn't a perscription for you or anyone else. I have to be honest, both of us has regrets.
I'm saying though, that what we have and what you have is very rare. A point of mutual understanding.
I'm suggesting you try to use it rather than see it as a problem.
I'm pointing out, that, in the privacy of your own home, you can both be the people you are.
