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Started by chunk, December 03, 2006, 12:00:04 PM

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chunk

As I contemplate my me-ness I notice that my attraction to either sex is minimal at best.

Yet people who visually meet in the middle are very attractive to me. If I get the sense that they are comfortable inside their bodies then its doubly so.

Chunk
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Casey

I'm attracted to women, or perhaps more accurately people who appear to be women. I'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact that male genitalia on a woman is not really a big deal but, and this one really throws me, female genitalia on a man does nothing for me. Once I get to know someone I'm usually attracted to women with strong personalities.

Like they say, the heart wants what it wants.
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beatrix

My wife is pretty androgyous, and if you give her a 3-option question, she'll pick it (masculine, feminine, androgynous), and I think she's one of the most beautiful people in the world.

It's either in the middle or to the feminine side.  Maybe a bit brutish on the sense of humor, but otherwise not.

I really don't care one way or another about the equipment.
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tinkerbell

Well, I am only attracted to men; however, IMO, the equipment is not so important, for it is their masculinity which I am attracted to and not "other things".


tinkerbell :icon_chick:
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Kendall

I wrote about my attraction in " masculine traited women" post at https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,5271.0.html .

I would just add to that that even androgynes that were born female and feel more male influence have been very attractive to me even.
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Sangre y Leche

I'm attracted to all three sexes. Allthough I have never felt very comfortabe around women who are very much woman.
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Laurry

Quote from: Casey on December 03, 2006, 03:12:02 PMI'm attracted to women, or perhaps more accurately people who appear to be women. I'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact that male genitalia on a woman is not really a big deal but, and this one really throws me, female genitalia on a man does nothing for me. Once I get to know someone I'm usually attracted to women with strong personalities.

Like they say, the heart wants what it wants.

Casey,  we have very similar attractions.  I also have struggled with that question and as I reached the point where a woman's genitalia was not that big of a deal (mentally at least), I also realized that it doesn't matter what a man has (male or female genitalia), I'm not attracted.

Androgynes can vary so not sure there, but if the person is wonderful, anything can happen.

......Laurie
Ya put your right foot in.  You put your right foot out.  You put your right foot in and you shake it all about.  You do the Andro-gyney and you turn yourself around.  That's what it's all about.
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Lyric

My attraction has always been maximal, at best! I've often considered that my desire to experience my own femininity is linked to intense desire to experience women, period. What better way to enjoy womanhood than from the inside-out. While at times, I've felt my feminine self desiring the comfort of masculine companionship, I've never found men sexually stimulation, per se. Thanks largely to the enlightenment of online resources, I no longer see genitalia as a restriction and indeed, find a spectacular penis on a beautiful woman quite erotic. Though I'll aways lust for the  genetic woman's undefinable sexual intricacies, there's something special-- and sexy-- about anyone who so desires to be desirable that they go to such great lengths as many of the "->-bleeped-<-s". Indeed, this is a variation of the whole attraction/envy thing I've always had with women (either type of genitalia). It's an odd, but kind of wonderful thing, being simultaneously attracted to a gender and desirous to be that gender as well.
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." - Steve Jobs
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HelloToYou

I think I'm attracted to androgynous guys... or somewhat feminine men.  Before I got a chance to really think through whether or not the "equipment" matters, I met my boyfriend.  Now he's the only one I'm attracted to, so I don't know exactly what I would be attracted to if he weren't around.
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umop ap!sdn

Quote from: Lyric on December 16, 2006, 07:47:31 PMIt's an odd, but kind of wonderful thing, being simultaneously attracted to a gender and desirous to be that gender as well.
It is definitely wonderful. I've been that way for the entire time that I've ever found anyone attractive, so for me it's difficult to wrap my mind around the genders not being the same, even during those times when I'm having hetero feelings. :D
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seldom

I have never been that physically attracted to anybody at all.  I know this sounds kind of weird, but it has always been the case.  People are people.  The thing is it took me years to figure out that this was the case because I was asexual.  But I should have figured that out when I backed off from sexual situations time in and time again.  I would have saved myself quite a bit of frustration and heartbreak.  

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chunk

yeah I was wondering that...like what is it that people are going on about with the physical attraction and man/woman or man/man or woman/woman thing. And I've been married for eons.

I really couldn't wrap my brains around having a baby. From me, my body, producing a child? How definately female. I was quite afraid I'd get pregnant.  :( I wanted to sort out my inner weirdness, which I thought and still wonder if its just some 'issue' I need to work through. I started working on accepting whatever thoughts came into my head and being okay because they are there...and what a shock it was to become this ... it-thing-person. I'm still reeling from the idea that I don't have to be female...or male.

Its like I keep thinking "am I allowed to do this?" "isn't this wrong" "am I just being lazy?"
:-\

Chunk
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Laurry

Quote from: chunk on December 19, 2006, 01:41:24 AM
yeah I was wondering that...like what is it that people are going on about with the physical attraction and man/woman or man/man or woman/woman thing. And I've been married for eons.

There is a joke about getting married and no longer having sex in here somewhere...

Looking back at it now, I believe my ex-wife was asexual...she just never really cared about it...thus one of the reasons she is my EX.  And before the comments come in, (and I know they will because I wouldn't be able to resist either), she was that way BEFORE she married me...just wish I had been smart enough to figure it out then.

....Laurie 
Ya put your right foot in.  You put your right foot out.  You put your right foot in and you shake it all about.  You do the Andro-gyney and you turn yourself around.  That's what it's all about.
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