Quote from: Alyssa M. on February 13, 2010, 05:24:51 PM
Seriously Dawn? That's your problem? Why? That's pretty weak sauce. How about this: When I have the flu, I desire to be able to hold down a meal, walk from my bed to the bathroom without nearly or actually fainting, and generally feel okay. Right now I have a mild fracture in my right thumb, and I desire to be able to play the piano without excruciating pain and to sign my name on credit card slips. and yes, you better believe it, I desire to have the physical characteristics of, and to be accepted as, a woman.
If that implies any sort of "choosing," it's "choosing" to live a full and healthy life rather than an empty and painful existence. But of course, "choose" would be a silly word to use in those cases, just as it would be a silly word to use in the DSM. Synonyms don't generally have identical meanings, only similar ones.
Alyssa,
Sorry to hear about your thumb! I do hope that you can return to the piano soon.
Yes, seriously Alyssa! You know, if your opinion is that you made a choice to be who you are and you have a choice to persistantly display as female hoping for acceptrance from others, well, so be it. It's your right to make your choice. Be happy with it. And, good luck to you in your endeavors.
However, I'll stick to my "problem" with the word desire and it's synonym, choose; implying that one would make a choice to be gender incongruent. I don't see how one could desire or choose to be incongruent. Pray tell! And yes, synoyms do have the same or nearly identical meanings. Look it up!
Desires and choices can be too easily seen as ludicrous. I can
desire to be the President of the U.S.A., but actually becoming such is a pipe dream. Not only to me, but, I just about bet nearly everyone else that knows me too, lol! You can
choose or
desire to not pay your taxes. Let's see you convince the judge with your desire to not do so! However, there have been several cases won because the non tax paying citizen had a strong enough conviction (no pun intended) and belief that they were not obligated to pay said taxes and won! But, I digress.
If we allow the verbage desire, choose, choice or whatever to prevail, those detractors (you know the right-wing-nuts of vertually every aspect of western culture) that are there just waiting for the final draft to prove them right, will continue to have amunition to throw back at us validating their contention that somehow we "chose this lifestyle"; you made a "choice' to be who you are! Does it bother me that people have these misconceptions. You bet your ever lovin' ass it does. I know these nut jobs. And, they are dangerous! Just visit the list of those on the National Day of Rememberence site to witness their effectiveness.
Look, the issues I have with the released revision draft are more than just what I expressed earlier. There's alot more. The way I see it, these people are only providing us window dressing with the term Gender Incongruence vs. Gender Identity Disorder. I think their real goal is to provide just enough to satisfy a few, put just enough in to piss off some others, and end up factionalizing the whole freaking community. Appearantly it's already working! How do you fight and win a war? You divide and conquer!
Presently, they're winning.
Dawn