Girls are so complicated!

[harlee]

Theres this awesome as girl Ive been friends with for around 6 months now. Just recently tho weve been getting further into a relationship. To begin with, she knows about my trans problem and accepts it completely, shes pretty young as well, really only two years younger than me.

Every time we talk, she tells me she loves me, I tell her back   The other weekend when we went to the movies, we held hands and I kissed her on the cheek twice She tells me about how she wants to be my everything forever, but she doesnt want to say "yes" when I ask her out, to be as in boyfriend and girlfriend    
Im good friends with all her friends, they also know the truth! She says the reason for not going any further is cause she "doesnt want to get teased" which I can understand completely! But she still wants to be my somewhat friend with benefits

Thats the part I dont understand Everyone knows we like each other! Ahh girls are so complicated 

[zombiesarepeaceful]

In my opinion, if she's not willing to put up with a little teasing from people to be with you, she's not gonna be someone you want to be with. My drag dad's (he's ftm) girlfriend has put up with ->-bleeped-<- for being with him and he's put up with ->-bleeped-<- for being with her, but they love eachother to death for who the other person is, not what they have, and that alone helps them get through anything.

[Autumn]

So she's 2 years younger than you... is she 16? She sounds it. Especially saying something like "everything forever."

Love is a word that I am very careful to use. Some people throw it around freely. Especially young girls. It doesn't mean anything. Whereas with other people, it means the world. If I am interested in someone as more than a friend, there is no way in hell I will use the word love with them, because it just complicates things later on. I generally don't fall in love with someone without a reason, but you also don't want to suddenly stop using the word 'love' with someone because you're now ->-bleeped-<-buddies.

It sounds sort of like the Katy Perry song right now, honestly.

[zombiesarepeaceful]

It sounds sort of like the Katy Perry song right now, honestly.

" I Kissed a Girl and I liked it..."??

[Autumn]

It's not what I'm used to, just wanna try you on
I'm curious for you, caught my attention
...
You're my experimental game, just human nature

[Hikari]

That 'hot and cold' song of hers would also describe most 16 year olds...

It doesn't seem complicated to me, she wants to have her cake and eat it too, to be fair I always want the benefits without the consequences but, I am mature enough to know that there will always be consequences.

As far as everyone knowing but her not wanting to commit to being official, she still has plausible deniability (at least in her own mind) since nothing is official ergo, there is no 'consequence' at this stage of the game for her. Or at least if I did that, that is what I would be thinking.

[Lachlann]

Yeah I thought you were talking about Hot 'n Cold, lol.

Sounds more like an age thing to be honest. There's a reason why I try and stay away from the younger ones, and that's because I'm still at an age where people can be stupidly delusional with only a few years between us. Heck, people can still be that way at my age, which is why sometimes I avoid my own age group, lol.

Don't wait around for people, though. If there's anything I've learned it's that you should not get yourself too wrapped up in it, otherwise it's the only thing you think about and if she decides no then you're gonna get hurt. Also, it does sound like she wants to have her cake and eat it too as Hikari said. Be careful around those types.