Am I the only one?

[LordKAT]

I feel that it would feel so good to just have a person who would spend the night with me and let me pleasure them before holdiong them until they had to leave in the morning. It seems like I'm the only one who appreciates giving pleasure before or instead of taking and still fills male. Any others as I lack the 'equipment'? I find the lack to be a BIG problem. I love girls, but they want what I can not give most times.

super emphasis on the big.

[Cindy]

I think this is one of the worst things about GID. We cannot be the person we wish. No matter how hard we try. Yes MtF may end up with a functional vagina and realistic breasts and be able to physically satisfy their man. For FtM sadly this appears unlikely in the near future.
Before anyone jumps on me (if only ) I'm talking purely about anatomical changes not about what is between the ears.

Then many many women say that they enjoy the intimacy, the kissing, the stroking, the loving and the romance much much more than the 'bone jumping'.

Cindy

[Silver]

There are guys content with mostly giving pleasure.

Don't know what to tell you about the equipment, in the same boat here. I'll never get to feel it. Meh, all I can really say is I know how you feel.

[LordKAT]

I guess I'm depressed because finding anyone who can accept less than natal guy seems like the impossible task. I would love to just be loved for me but I don't see that happening. I keep telling myself I didn't see it as female either, and I tried that route, really tried. I failed and was miserable at it as well as lonely.  Now I just have lonely.

Then many many women say that they enjoy the intimacy, the kissing, the stroking, the loving and the romance much much more than the 'bone jumping'.

Cindy

I know its what they say, just not the reality.

[Al James]

lordkat don't know what to tell you but you will find someone. i was lucky- i mt my partner when i was presenting as female but she guessed about the g.i.d (something to do with not letting her see me without clothes i think) and she happily(?!) accepts the male me. we may have only been together just over a year but we've had a civil ceremony and when i get my GRC in the distant future i know we'll be getting married properly. There is someone out there for us all

[LordKAT]

finding them in the next century won't do me much good, I'll be a ghost.

[Al James]

Then think of all the places you'll be able to get into! Sorry i have a sick sense of humour. But seriously- your a great bloke and someone will see that one day not necessarily when youre looking

[LordKAT]

All those, female only spaces you mean? could be interesting.

It will have to be when I'm not looking, it sure doesn't work when I am looking.  thanks for the cheer.

[spacial]

Lordkat

Please stop for a moment. Let's take some stock of what you're looking for.

Guys, stand around, looking for a nice girl, they chat them up a bit then move on.

Wrong. Girls select the men. When a girl likes the look of you, and girls decide in a first few seconds, they send you the signals and you think it was your idea.

OK, so it's a bit unfair and a bit complicated, but that's life.

Spend your time on building yourself. Your career, your life. Girls want a man with some character, some stability, someone interesting.

When it comes to sex, you both deal with it at the time.

OK, so things will be a bit more complicated with you, but by the time it's got to that stage, that won't be a problem.

If it's a one night stand then do what you feel. If she doesn't like it, then that, quite frankly, is her problem.

[Myself]

my bf likes to find new ways to pleasure and not just receive.
But it might be because of me (not yet bottom fixed) being a bit with lack of sex willingness.

[LordKAT]

spacial,

you are depressing me.

you are not understanding what I'm saying I think. I don't always express myself well.

[spacial]

I apologise LordKat. I have read your post carefully but I accept I have misunderstood.

I assumed you are feeling a little lonely and isolated.

Being male is like that. Men might smile a lot because that it what is expected of them.

But since the source of your sadness is not that, then the most I can offer is a hand and empathy.

Take care.

[Lachlann]

I'm feeling a bit down on myself about the lack of 'junk' too. And I like giving too, but I also like receiving. And it hits me every so often that I don't actually have the right plumbing. It's very annoying.

I'd say I'm more of a giver than a receiver, but in the end they can be the exact same thing.

[LordKAT]

I'd say I'm more of a giver than a receiver, but in the end they can be the exact same thing.

This is a good point.

[H205]

One word: Realdoe. Now go enjoy. It's the closest thing to real since real's not an option.

[LordKAT]

One word: Realdoe. Now go enjoy. It's the closest thing to real since real's not an option.

Somehow that doesn't touch the topic or answer the question.

[Renate]

Maybe you're just "stone".

Have you read:

Stone Butch Blues: A Novel (1993) - Leslie Feinberg * Amazon * WorldCat

[LordKAT]

Never heard of it, I will look it up.

[H205]

My misunderstanding and apologies LordKAT.

[sneakersjay]

Don't know what to tell you about the equipment, in the same boat here. I'll never get to feel it.

You may not get to actually have PIV sex with your natural equipment, but let me tell you this (at the risk of TMI, LOL):  When your junk grows on T, try a pump.  Seriously.  Your junk gets  huge (compared to what it was and is without pumping).  About the size of a thick thumb, though maybe shorter because of the way its attached.  With that and a bit of lube, and a bit of imagination, a hand or a sleeve, you can get a pretty darn good idea of what it would feel like to actually have PIV sex with someone.  And all I can say is that (for me!) it feels way better than being on the receiving end of PIV sex.  (Though sexual contact of any sort would be far better than going solo!!)

But I will also say, with the topic at hand, if you can stand the thought of using a Share, you will get some pretty good sensations from that, too.

Jay